Psychic Swansea

 

When spirits breathe.

 

At the point of death there is an awakening. A remembering of everything you meant to forget in order to fully enjoy your time here on planet Earth. You picked this body, this life cycle, the family you were born into and the environment. It was all carefully selected so that you could use the energy of it as a launch pad for your particular brand of joy. You knew before stepping forward into birth that you would never be separated from the power that is the totality of who you are. You knew that you would have a brand new opportunity to find it all over again from the perspective of form. You looked at the weird and wonderful shape of your body and selected it. You knew you would only have a limited amount of time and none of it mattered. The second you are done with your body you will remember again and sink into the deliciousness of who you are. Of course you don't have to wait until your body dies to do that, you can feel all that life has to offer right now but either way the second you leave your body you will become one with everything that you are. It's hard for me to put into words what we are because I am very aware that I am still looking at it through human eyes, through a human understanding and I am, as all humans are, at the mercy of a human ego.

 

 

The process of death, from what I am told, is a fluid sequence. A gentle reintroduction into the greater whole. This process is often littered with the fragments of your ideas of death. If you believe in Jesus, you'll probably see Jesus. If you believe in the Buddha, you will have an experience more in alignment with that and so on. Always, amongst the chatter of “re entry” you will be accompanied by spirits, often family members, who have continued on the family role beyond the dynamic of form. Mothers tend to continue being mothers long after they have left their bodies. This is why sometimes in a reading your great grandmother can come through to see you even though you've never “met”. The truth is that you have and that you will again and that she doesn't need to have walked beside you in this incarnation in order to love you. She loves regardless. Once this process of death is over there is a deep and rich awakening into a mind that is resonant with all the lifetimes that you are experiencing. You forget the trappings of linear time and you become the equation of everything that you have and are living. There is no heaven and hell. There is no “spirit world”. If there was it's right here right now. Everyone you have ever loved still exists within the space of that love. It really never ends.

 

 

As I've said many times your intuition is a better psychic for you than I'll ever be. I am simply a medium. My brain has the capacity to translate information and download it through my body. We all get the information, it's just that people like me can put it into words. Like a musician who hears a piece of music and can then play that music back to you. Those who have left their bodies are not dead, they are actually more alive than we are able to understand. For centuries mystics have been saying that life is a dream and the more I learn about what I do and who I am the more I agree. It's a brief glimpse into what we are capable of creating. Wonderful. Fantastic. Awe inspiring. Yet, also limited, also small, also a starting point. Life is all about renewal which is why we all agreed to this cycle. We have chosen this and we will choose it again. It really is just a new set of clothes for the soul. The soul never stops loving, never stops connecting, never stops playing, experiencing, reaching out, finding the joy in everything. This is not to diminish or demean the grief experience but we can understand it as a stepping stone to a greater and more richer invitation. To live life. To experience life.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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How to listen to your gut.

 

I wake up every morning, go through my normal routine, coffee, juice, sit with Stu and natter before he leaves for work and then when he leaves I sit down to do my tarot card for the day. I quiet my mind, pull a few cards out of a few packs and then I listen. It's hard to describe really, it's like the room is bigger than it should be. Like the walls are 6 feet further back than normal. The whispers of spirit start their chatter and I get a taste of the energy of the day. I really could write paragraph after paragraph about what I feel but most people don't have time like that in the morning. Plus I make it a personal mission to give utilizable information. I want to give a quick vision of the energy map of the day over so that both you and I can make the most of it. Like today for instance we are still feeling the energetic effects of the Solstice. This is a time when things start to balance out in your life and that can be a good thing or a bad thing depending on where your life is. For me I use this time to journal more and do some automatic writing ( writing without any clear intention, letting words fill the page, kind of like you see me do in readings ) to help me to download some insight into what in my life needs balancing. It's been a tough year so far and we are near half way through now so I got plenty of messages about self care, a heads up to something happening later in the year regarding my family and a taste of the energy for the latter half of the year.

 

 

All of this information came to me because I opened myself up to it. Now I'm not one of those psychics that believe everyone is a “potential” psychic. You either hear voices and see spirits, or you don't BUT you can train your intution to work in a similar way. We all have that gut feeling, the problem is we don't always know how to listen to it or pick it out of the din of a hundred other voices in our heads. There are a few techniques that can help you and I've mentioned them all before but the main one, as you guessed it, is meditation. I don't care how you meditate, you can sit there with a candle and quiet your mind or you can watch the sea, paint a picture, doodle, use a colouring book, curl up with your dog and a cuppa, there are no rules in that context. Do what you need to do to find a quiet space within yourself. Once you have found that and make time to repeatedly go there you will, over time, aquire a languaging skill for your intuition. That is the space I go to before I do my readings and it is available to everyone. Now you won't start seeing the dead, don't worry, unless they have a really important message to get to you it's unlikely they'll start showing up. But what will happen is that you will begin to root yourself in your instinct and in doing so you'll get insights both into your own energy and the energy of those around you.

 

 

I've had clients who have used my readings as a sort of resetting focal point for themselves. As a way to see whether what they are listening to within themselves is accurate. I don't mind how you use the reading and I've had many where I just seem to be confirming what the client suspects anyway. Once you start to really listen to your gut and more importantly, ACT upon that information then the more that process will benefit you and your life. You will start to trust it more. Like I've said many times, your intuition will be a better psychic for you than I will ever be. It's the language of your spirit and the access to infinite knowledge. A big part of psychic work is just to reflect that back to you. Now, sometimes we go so off course that we can't find that quiet space within ourselves easily. It can be arduous and seemingly time consuming. If you're in that space take the long approach. Bit by bit, piece by piece, day by day work slowly towards realigning where you are with who you are. Remember that the universe has your back and it's all working with your best interests at heart, you just have to get on board with what the Universe has in mind for you!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Taking a day.

 

So I crawl out of bed and look out over the sea and I watch the glitter of light across the waves I begin to feel deeply grateful for the life I have in front of me. My amazing husband to be, my dog, my job, my house, my health, my family, all of it feels like it's in the right place. The day is of my own choosing and I am deciding whether to paint or whether to make some music. There are no clients to read that day but still I get a gut feeling, which is telling me basically to take a day. So that's what I do. I allow myself a completely, guilt free, unproductive day where I basically plant my bum in front of the telly, eat crap food and do nothing. The next day I get up and carry on as normal. I used to need an “excuse” to take a day. If I had a whole day in front of me it felt like a complete waste just to sit there and do nothing with it plus, the whole self help world is geared towards fetishising productivity and because I'm a complete Virgo I relish in that! So it's taken me a while to get to a place where just following that particular prompt is done without too much grumbling. Of course there are days when I try to fight against it and that's when my intuitive centres have to work a little harder to get me to sit down.

 

 

With a beautiful day ahead of us today we all have a wonderful excuse to do nothing. To soak up the sun and just “be”. It really is important to take some time when you feel the urge to because you never know what you are being prepared for. You may need a little extra rest, maybe your intuition is trying to get a message to you and you need to sit down to let it come or maybe, just maybe, you are so focussed on the story of your life that you are actually missing it. Do you take time to marvel at the clouds and the trees? Do you like to sit in cafe's and people watch and fall into the space of wonder at how complex and beautiful this planet is? We are life, experiencing life. The Universe of our bodies playing with the idea of the Universe around our bodies. How awesome is that?! This morning I took Oscar out for his walk before the heat kicked in ( which is why this blog is a little late ) and I just spent a little bit of time watching the trees. I think a day spent falling in love with trees is probably the most productive thing you can do. I know I sound like a complete hippie when I say this but trees are wonderful teachers and I love being around them. For me they are reminders that as we look out into the world that the world is also looking back.

 

 

There are days when we are called to do a lot or when the urge to take a day can't be honoured at that particualr point. I get it. I really do but the second that thought strikes you make a point to put it on your calendar. Make a point to create some time for you to wander this planet. I see so many kids these days going on “adventures” simply to create pictures for their social media feed. They've forgotten to enjoy the moment. They've forgotten that as many wonderful pictures that you can create they will never replace an awesome memory. So if you are reading this then maybe this is the Universe speaking to you, through me. Giving you the intuitive hit to take some time out to enjoy the planet around you. Remind yourself what you fight for every day. Remind yourself of the beauty that is intrinsic to our being. That is what will replenish you. So many people will give you an invitation to fear on a daily basis. Use wonder and joy as your sword and shield. Don't ignore the troubles of the world, or the troubles of your life but do recognise that you are bigger and brighter than them and that, deserves a day.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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A time to deconstruct.

 

Every Sunday I sit there, incense burning away in the background, tarot cards laid out in front of me and the sea in my gaze and that's when I start to feel the energy of the week ahead. I try not to snoop too hard because reading for myself in that way has always been difficult. I can't say that I can't do it but personal bias is ALWAYS a factor in that process. But, I can feel the energy of the week. I can sense when a day is going to be a problem or when something a little “sharp” might happen. It's hard to explain but it's something I've done since I was about 16. To be honest when I first started I was just trying to give myself a reading, a heads up as to what was coming. My questions were always based in fear and I always did what I could read into the week what I wanted to happen. That's the danger of reading for the self. I learned my lesson, the hard way, but at least I learned. These days I just like to see what energy I am about to dive into so that I can make the most of it. I plan my week around it. If a day looks like it's not going to go so well I add more self care to the day and if a day has better “financial” abundance based energy then that's when I do extra planning or looking at expanding my business. The point is I take a moment every week to deconstruct my life in order to make the most of it.

 

 

Goal setting is an overly saturated subject and one I have been hooked on for years. It depends on the kind of person you are really but I know in my heart that I am goal orientated. I like to have an end point to work towards. It helps me to organise myself in a way that feels cohesive. As an artist I also have had to learn to make room for a “go with the flow” attitude as well which is something I am constantly re learning. The way I have incorporated the two is to make time to listen to my intuition every day. It's all part of my meditative process and I make sure that I know that I have the option to scrap what is infront of my for the day if I feel pulled to something else. I have list upon list upon list. I think I made 7 yesterday. Not just for the week but for the purposes of dumping all the ideas in my head onto a space so that I don't have to think about them any more. I take time each week to do that, to pick apart the ideas that have been swimming around my head all week. That's where I can add something to one of my book projects or scribble down an idea for a painting or, like last night, think about creating more products and services to help my client base feel more connected.

 

 

You can't be afraid to deconstruct your life in that way. To break it down into it's smallest pieces and see what is needed and what needs to be thrown away. That's what this process does for me. It may look a little crazy from the outside looking in but taking time each week not just to plan what needs to be done but also ensure there are things that you want to do on your list is a way to keep you in a good feeling place. We can't be afraid to pull what we have apart once in a while. I advise making it a regular thing. If you have some time this morning then try it, if not then next Sunday take an hour to write down what you want to do as well as what you have to do. Use your intuition to feel the week out ahead. Ask your angels to help you create a list that will reflect your heart most and help you to serve your highest good. Be willing to change that list if need be. You also can't hold yourself hostage if things don't get done. Modern life will always get in the way and it's O.K that it does. Don't take it too seriously but do give it a go. For me, it works and I get a lot more done which in turn means more play time. If you already do it then share any tips you have below I would love to hear them!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The day after.

 

Yesterday we spoke about rock bottom. If you haven't read that blog then take some time to give it a quick skim because today my blog is going to be focused on what you do the day AFTER rock bottom hits. The tear stained faces, the exhaustion of crying all night, the rage, the confusion, the million unanswered questions that clutter up every corner of your mind. I know all of this and I know it well. I've been through a few of these life “resets” to have developed the skill set to deal with them. Once it hits the first step is to dive head first into prayer and offer your life over to whatever your concept of God is. If you want a life bigger than the one you've got then it makes sense to offer it over to something bigger than you are. It is a process that has worked for me. You don't need to do any rituals or throw yourself on the floor of a church, you simply have to have an extremely brave and courageous quiet moment where you say to the Universe at large, “Over to you!”. This is the moment that so many spiritual books and texts focus on, just getting you to that point. But then what happens the day after? What happens when you've made the choice to give control of your life to the Universe but the next day you still need to go to work and feed the kids. That's when one of the greatest lessons I've ever learned starts to come into play. Trust.

 

 

Your instinct will be to dive straight back into the chaos and fix it but that's like giving someone a job and then butting in and doing it yourself. So the day after just relax. Sink into the space of your spirit and know that everything is being taken care of. Become curious about what you are experiencing without taking the experience personally. See it as a puzzle that the Universe is untangling instead of a problem heaped on your shoulders. Go day to day. Step by step. Each morning the sun rises and you get a whole day to do with as you choose. You may have made commitments to a job or to a family but the energy you bring to that space is something you get to decide every morning. You can walk through the world with a smile and a heart full of love or you can crash, bang and wallop into everything you encounter. That has always been and will always be up to you. I'm not saying the day after you husband leaves you that you're going to want to try and skip through fields of grass singing ( or maybe you will! ) but what I am saying is that no matter what emotional state you find yourself in that you have the capacity to make the most of it.

 

 

I personally think that prayer or meditation in some form or another is mandatory, especially during times of transition. So find a space every day to sit with your own energy and just keep an ear to your spirit. As the Universe takes over and sorts your life out she might have a little job for you to do here and there. If you are deep in crisis what she will have for you might be bigger. She might ask you to leave your partner, to quit your job, to start saving for the dream. She might ask you just to sit down and hold on as she does all of those things for you. She might ask you to let go of the pain you have been carrying and she might ask you to forgive the person who hurt you the most. These are all things that you have to be at the very least willing to face during these times. It's not to say that they will all happen but you have to trust the Universe enough to know that she knows more than you do and is better equipt to handle it. So during times of complete catastrophe don't look at the big picture, it will be too much and too overwhelming. Just look at the day. Look at what can be done and really, really listen to the direction your spirit wants to take you.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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When rock bottom hits.

 

The room spun around me and I felt like I couldn't breathe. I just remember crying and crying, thinking that I would never stop. Alone. In my first apartment. Laying on the purple carpet my mum had bought for me, unable to pay rent, heart broken, mentally and spiritually exhausted and trying everything I could to get through the day. After I climbed out of that hole I quickly fell into another and another. I moved house more often than I could count, I lost more jobs than I knew what to do with and the aching loneliness that came with all of that just followed me everywhere. Rock bottom was not so much an experience as a lifestyle that seemed to cling to me. And here's the thing that is often left out of spiritual teachings, is that it's never a one time experience. Rock bottoms for all of their noise, glamour and drama are actually spiritual resets for your life. They are designed to hit you back on course. The more of them you experience the more you are able to develop a skill set to navigate them so that when they do turn up you will know what to do. Rock bottoms have been my biggest teachers and in hindsight I wouldn't change them for the world.

 

 

My experiences on this planet have taught me a great many things about myself and about the world around me. One of which is that I am a man of faith. When I was young and something impacted my life I would throw myself at it and the drama of it in the misguided understanding that it was my job to resolve it or sort it out. When the hits to my life became so big that there was literally nothing I could do I eventually did what I should have done from the very beginning, I prayed. Now when something impacts my life in a way that doesn't feel good instead of crying and wailing about it I do my best to sit with a candle and pray it out. I do my best to understand that it is not my job exclusively to fix or even intervene what is being rearranged within my life. It is my job to listen to what is being said to me, to be brave enough to accept it and then to take that gift and use it within my life. There is no end to pain on the planet. We all go through it at varying levels at many different points in our lives. Avoiding it is impossible. The more you learn to accept it and move forward the quicker you will come out the other side in the mould and shape that the universe has designed for you.

 

 

I consider myself very lucky in the discovery of my faith. You can call it God, Allah, Buddah, Beyonce for all I care, I'm not attached to any religion dominantly, but, I know, I experience and I trust in the consciousness of the world around me. It has guided me, lifted me, deconstructed me and made me into the best version of myself and it continues to do so. I exist inside a giant collaboration that is constantly communicating with me and constantly inviting me to play in the world. You do too! When our lives look like they are broken into a million little pieces around us that's not the time to scream and panic, that's the time to get quiet and let a force bigger than you take over. EVERY TIME I've done this it has worked. That doesn't mean emotionally checking out. It just means that you spend more time in prayer than you do in the chaos and hysteria of your experience. It means you spend more time listening to the world around you then you do reacting and avoiding the the pain infront of you. What is your life moulding you into? What is the lesson inside the experience? What is there to be grateful for? These are meditations that help unlock your experience so that you can figure out the root and bones of who you are. Take some time. Take some space and work on who you are becoming.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The Process.

 

As you all know I spend a lot of time working on my business. My aim changes and grows as I do but the over all intention of my writing and on line work is to create a safe space. A place for people to reconnect with their authentic selves or at the very least pick up a little insight. That's what I feel the nucleus of my readings are too. They are touchstones, reminders of your own power and energy. My blogs and all of my other online content is intended to invite the kind of clients that are willing to do the work. I want to be in a space with people who are seeking the best of themselves and are willing to expand their vision of their lives to include a deeper and richer dialogue with the world around them. To understand that spirits are in the air around you and all the spaces in between the world. I want to provide a platform to help people reconnect with the love that they are built from and my favourite part of my job is to be witness to when that happens. It truly is a magical moment. Then of course, from time to time, I get a client who thinks I'm a fortune teller. A client who is looking for spiritual entertainment. A client who wants to play victim to the world around them and tries to place their happiness on my shoulders. I am grateful that these clients are rare these days but it is always a little jolting when they turn up.

 

 

What I mean by fortune teller and I might just be playing with semantics here is the idea the the future is set in stone. I believe that I am clear when I speak to my clients that the future is more written in pencil. What I see can be changed. What I see can be used to create. What spirit delivers through me is the idea that your capacity for free will can be enhanced and exalted. Even the spirits themselves, who sometimes lay out detailed ideas of what your future holds understand that it is essentially only advice. What I experience during a reading is a taste of the collaborative picture that is the meeting place between your energy and your idea of your energy. It's like a giant picture erupts around the client and I can see energy patterns and projected futures. I see beyond the face you show me to the root and core of your personal truth which is often the point that those looking for a fortune teller become extremely uncomfortable. I understand that what I do isn't for everybody and if you are looking for some smoke and cards or someone to run around a haunted house for an hour then I'm not your guy. I'm interested in spiritual growth. In the capacity to let your life fill to the brim with love to the point of where people can't help but see your soul in everything you do.

 

 

I sometimes think that re branding or renaming what I do might help. In america some psychics are calling themselves “intuitives” or “sensitives”. I understand why, it can help you avoid some of the stigma and cultural stereotypes of what a psychic is considered. But then what's really in a name? The job we do is all pretty much the same. Psychics are mirrors of your metaphysical energy. We are the “medium” between the energy you are creating and the repercussions of it. Your future is of your own making and what you do with the information that is downloaded through my mind is entirely up to you. I've seen clients rebel against it, misunderstand it, reinterpret it to something that they find more comfortable or that fits in with their world view. I've also seen them rage against it and completely ignore it but the majority always accept it and use it as it is intended. They meditate on the information and utilise it to improve their lives. That's really what I want for you all. I want you to be the happiest most fulfilled version of yourself. I want you to love yourselves as deeply as I love you. I understand that we are all beautiful, delicate tapestries and that our lives extend well beyond our physical form. If you are interested in that then maybe we can work together. As always, trust your gut because your spirit knows your more intimately than I ever will.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The gift of free will.

 

I am so grateful. I woke up this morning a little earlier than usual and just drank some water as I opened the curtains and looked out over the sea. A coffee later and here I am, sat at the laptop with the sounds of the sea in the distance, gentle music playing in the background and the room is gently filling with incense. I have done my prayers, my intentions, my affirmations and I have a poem and a prayer to write after this. My morning routine is gentle, un intrusive to the day and of course, designed to be a reminder that I get to choose. Long ago I would dread a Monday morning. It would mean dragging myself out of bed to mechanically get dressed, run out to the door to catch the bus on time to then sit in a packed office with a phone attached to my ear for the next 8 hours. That lifestyle made me spiritually and emotionally exhausted. I really did crumble when living that way. It was a hard lesson to learn but ultimately one that became a personal truth. Some people thrive in that way of life. My husband-to-be loves that kind of routine. He loves his work, showing up on time and being a part of a community. I prefer to sit on the edges and watch what's happening around me. I prefer to turn up when I feel ready and do what I feel needs doing. It sounds quite romantic when you put it on paper but a lot of work has gone into setting up a lifestyle that suits me.

 

 

Like so many people I thought I would have to endure the world as it was set up. I didn't realise that I get to choose how to live. If something doesn't work for me then I get to look at it, change it if need be and create something new if I have to. There was no “psychic” option at the careers office. There were no real jobs for my skill set at the job centre ( although it was fun to see the look on their faces when I asked. ). Also being a gay man the world at that time had a set path for me but it wasn't the path I had for myself. Many men and women have a life set out for them long before their feet touch the ground here. Cultural gender norms would have women selflessly barefoot and pregnant taking care of everyone and men becoming emotionally unavailable walking cash machines. The point is we have been given this incredible gift of free will. We get to choose where to put our focus and to use it to our benefit. We get to tell our own story. If the world around you doesn't work for you then create a new one. If you want to live in a tiny house ( my new current obsession ) and travel the world living hand to mouth then do so. If you want to sit a space and paint all day then do so. Not in a childish way but maybe in a child-like way! Of course take care of your basic needs but also be aware of your calling.

 

 

When I look at my week ahead I am excited to see what's coming. Being self emplyed has it's own ups and downs but all of them are worth the ability to call the own shots in my life. I don't answer to anyone and I don't have any rules to follow other than the ones I set out for myself. This also means that there's no one to catch me if I fall and that when I don't work there's no money. So it really does depend on what set of circumstances you are most excited by. When you look at the week ahead of you what feeling are you most filled with? Excitement? Dread? Apathy? Fear? Love? Whichever it is you get to decide whether that feeling perpetuates or evolves into something else. Be an observer of your life this week. Sit in the quiet space in between your own thoughts and witness what is happening around you. If you want that to change then use that quiet space to search for an answer. You have everything you need to co create the life you were designed to live. All I want to do today is remind you that you have a choice whether to live that or not. Good Luck.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Create a talisman.

 

Candles are lit and incense is quickly filling the room. I have done my meditations and I am about to create something so I have beads, pictures and words scribbled down on scraps of paper. I am about to make a talisman. Now a talisman is a symbolic representation of something you want to create. It's a sort of manifestational reminder to keep your focus on the creation of whatever it is you want to create. Over the years I have made many talismans, mojo bags and I love the whole process. I felt the urge to create one again recently so I thought I would talk to you guys about it and maybe inspire you to give it a go. I believe in magic, I truly do but not he Harry Potter kind. I believe that we have intention and the capacity to exact that intention through stepping into the symphonic tapestry of the world around us. The dialogue of intuition can bring us to the things we want or at the very least help us to see that the things we want are actually only stepping stones to get the things we really need. Creating a talisman is a process and I personally enjoy all aspects of it.

 

 

You start by gathering items, things that are in sympathy with the object of your desire. Think of a talisman as kind of like a key you are creating to open the door to what you want. If you want a new house maybe gather pictures of the types of homes that you like? Think about what you would want that home to smell like, what carpet would you like, what curtains, patterns and all the wonderful little pieces you would like to line your nest with. If you want a lover then think about how you would like to feel during that interaction and create from that space. Really go into detail. Then comes the creative bit, what would you like to make? You can use a small bag to put everything in or for me personally I sometimes like to fold things into origami. I've done everything from gluing beads together, sewing herbs into little figures and everything in between. The point is simply to create a symbolic representation of your desire. Once it's done write your own prayer but here's the tricky bit, write the prayer from the position of already having what you want. That's the knack. Create a little ritual if you like, call in your angels, burn candles, do whatever is in alignment with your own spiritual practice. There are no real rules here and then find a way to keep your talisman with you at all times.

 

 

The reason to keep it with you as much as you can is to literally offer you a constant reminder to stay in the feeling place of what it is that you want. When I was generating more cash in my experience I created a talisman that I worked into a key ring of sorts. Each time I left my home I would see the key ring and be reminded that money was already in my experience and I was lining up with it. Sometimes when cash is a little fragmented I get the talisman back out and sit back and watch as cash turns up! It doesn't turn up like “poof”! But I will get more clients, more art sales and this year I even got an unexpected cheque! It all comes to you if you put the time and effort in. So the question becomes what is it that you want to ask the universe for? What is it that you want? What do you want to make to symbolise that and how can you make it transportable? If you really get stuck then feel free to send me a message and I'll do my best to respond with any tips that might help. Make the experience sensory. Create sight, sound, smell during your ritual and let light unfold from that point. Give it a try and as always, surround yourself with the grace of the angels.

 

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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You are allowed a day!

 

We get up and do our meditations, prayers, mindfulness practices, we sometimes do our cardio, our yoga and then we sit down with a quiet cup of tea to give ourselves some “me” time and this is all part and parcel of the current cultural spiritual dialogue. But what if one day you wake up and you just think... “nah!”. You've done that before right? I know I certainly have. Now you might think I am going to offer you techniques about how to overcome that and push through or even talk about how that lack of commitment is often a reflection of a deep unresolved fear but for today the opposite is true. Just in case no one has done it before I want to give you full permission to take a day whenever you feel like you need. I give you permission to cancel appointments, book a massage, eat crappy food, binge on Netflix and not even consider washing your face. You are allowed. Now, making a lifestyle out of it, that's a separate blog but there just so much pressure on being productive these days that we almost demonise downtime. It's ok to scroll for hours, disconnect completely and get lost in the landscape of your own mind. Again, just don't make a lifestyle out of it.

 

 

Now all of you know that I like to be productive. My daily list is insane but, it's designed that way intentionally. I know myself that if I don't compartmentalise the things I want to do and create a time during the day to do them they they just won't get done. I also intentionally give myself too much to do in order for me to get more done than I would have normally. Now sometimes that means that I do rush a little and sometimes that means I make mistakes but on the whole the more I dedicate sections of time to a certain idea or project the more I seem to be able to focus on it. Like my 20 minutes of sketch time a day. For those 20 minutes I'm not thinking about my books, or readings, clients, call backs or any of that stuff and those 20 minutes are so focussed on one task that by the end of the week I am surprised at what I can get done. But there are those days when I look at my list and even though I am not particularly tired or exhausted if I'm not feeling it then I give myself licence to stop. We often wait too long to take breaks and sometimes we even wait for illness to strike before we give ourselves the agency to take a moment. I know I certainly used to be crazy for that.

 

 

I only ever used to come to a stop when I either had a migraine or I was physically out of the country. These days if I wake up, pull back the curtains and look out over our beautiful little city and my intuition sends me a message, “not today!”, then I listen. If my body, my mind, my soul needs some time to replenish then that's what I give it. I know I have commitements, we all do but my biggest commitment is to my well being. If I don't take care of me and put myself first then I can't share love with the people around me. Loving those around you is built on a system of self care. If you're not active in the space of loveing who you are then all you end up doing is investing in power plays with those around you. You deserve better. You deserve time and you deserve to design a life that gives that to you. I know it can be tough, being self employed if I'm not working then there's no cash coming in but at the end of the day if I collapse from exhaustion then I'm not going to work full stop! Put the love inside of you first and make a space to listen to it.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Creative challenge.

 

Clients leave the house and I am done for another day. My temples are throbbing and I feel truly emotionally and spiritually exercised. For a few moments I don't know my arse from my elbow and I really have to make a conscious effort not to just veg out in front of the TV for a few hours while I gather my thoughts back up. Throughout the course of a reading I viscerally feel what you and the spirits around you are feeling within the frame of my own body and if I'm not careful I can continue to carry that around with myself for a long time. It feels almost like I am wearing someone else's personality over mine. So I have to remind myself to routinely shake this off and get myself back to normal. This always involved a certain amount of physical exercize. Sometimes a good 2 hour walk with the dog sets me straight but I also love cardio and loud music. I just feel better afterwards. But one of the most important things to setting me right is creativity. I've said many times that spirituality and creativity are bedfellows. I don't really think that you can work on developing one without tripping over the other.

 

 

The problem with a lot of clients I speak to, especially the ones who have creative talents is that they have been taught to look at their creativity through an academic eye. I hope the education system is changing in that context but I won't hold my breath. Already this week I have stumbled across a client who literally shut off her creativity because a teacher coerced her into thinking that it wasn't a valid expression. That there was no way you can make money from it therefore what's the point? Most people also think that being “good” at creative things means being good a drawing or painting. It's not. Creativity is a lateral experience. Baking, knitting, sewing, gardening, origami, keeping a journal, there are so many ways to begin to tap into that aspect of who you are. It's not an area in which you can be overly pragmatic which is completely counter intuitive to how we are raised in our culture. We are taught that unless is can bring in money then you shouldn't put too much emphasis on it. It's as if happiness is not a good enough return on investing our time.

 

 

As all of you know by now I paint all the time. I also sing, write songs, poetry, novels, I fold origami pieces, I've tried silver smithing, dress making and I sometimes bake vegan cakes and cookies. I will give everything a go. If a painting or a song goes horribly wrong, oh well, at least I've spent a few hours enjoying myself in the process! It doesn't have to bring me money, don't get me wrong it's nice when it does but even during the times it doesn't I still keep at it. It brings me peace, it's a meditation of sorts, it's thinking time or non thinking time! It's a gift I give to myself every time I sit at the canvas. Now I truly believe that in our hearts we are all creative. I know this because I have yet to meet a child that doesn't enjoy some time with crayons and I want today is to for you to set yourself a little challenge. I want you to go out, or look on line and find yourself a cheap sketchbook. I want that book to be a place that no one else has to see and I want it to be pure art therapy. Pick 30 words, ideas phrazes, inspirational quotes and I want you to create something around them. Make it personal. Make it like a diary. You can use anything from magazine cutouts to whatever cheap art supplies you can get your hands on. I like to sketch before bed. It helps me to unwind, do it whenever you can. Don't judge what you create but go ahead and create it and then watch as you learn to think and maybe even live a little differently.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Tales of courage.

 

We don't seem to be able to keep up with the amount of attacks that are happening all over the world. Manchester, Kabul, London and I don't think there's any way to fully stop it but if there is what I saw this morning was, in my opinion, a definite step in the right direction. It seems that for the last few years we have been in such a downward spiral with a deep, dark fascination with the salacious that in this space we lost track of our dignity, integrity and without question our backbone. This has led to us glorifying the villain to perpetuate fear as much as possible. When people are afraid all the time they are much more likely to act within their baser instincts. When we are afraid we become more selfish, we hoard, we fall into identity politics and we police mindlessly other peoples actions because we are simply too afraid to look at their motives. This is what has been happening over the last 20 years and I would say that it's something that is now at fever pitch. But when fear becomes normalised there is also something else that happens. We have all developed the instinct to shut off our fear when it hits critical mass. It's an old survival instinct that is left over. A sort of emotional exhaustion takes place that opens a door to an incredible type of clarity.

 

 

You've probably heard a lot about people in life or death situations talking about how everything moves slowly. Like the brain all of a sudden has the ability to break down a situation into it's smallest pieces for purposes of survival. Well I think that is happening to us on a collective level. We are so sick of being afraid that we have begun to dismantle it from the ground up. Strangers are helping strangers. People are reaching out in times of need. We are collectively learning that empathy and compassion is what is going to heal and restore balance. We are examining the political structures and histories of what created this situation in the first place and we are starting to come together to find ways to resolve it going forward. You'll have noticed that people are more politically engaged now than ever. People are creating more diverse tapestries of throughout within their own lives. We are bored now with those who are so excited to have an opinion that they have forgotten to check if it's valid. We are bored with town criers on every facebook page and I saw it, in all places, on the news this morning.

 

 

You might have noticed that we are now talking about tales of courage, strength and community more than ever. We are subconsciously beginning to challenge the very ideas that put us where we are. There will be more attacks, we know this. Even is we stop selling guns to Saudi, even if we track every terrorist cell we can find. Someone, somewhere will be in such a state of perpetual fear that this will feel like a normalised action. We are beginning to wake up to the fact that we culturally need to atone. That we need to work on forgiving ourselves for the legacies our history has left us with. We now know, more than sometimes we feel like we can bare, our hand in all of this. The war in the middle east has finally begun to spill over onto our doorstep and demonising, vilifying and hating that doesn't stop it from happening. What does stop it is community. What does stop it is compassion. What does stop it is love. I read on a friends facebook post this morning that “love always wins” but I have to disagree. Love always wins is only half of the sentence. Love always wins when it is always defended. We have to defend it now for everyone, everywhere.

 

 

I stand with London,

I stand with Manchester,

I stand with Kabul,

I stand with America,

I stand with Iraq,

I stand with europe,

I... stand... with... everyone.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Claim your space!

 

It's an hour before readings and I am doing my usual bit of running through the house trying to make it as presentable as possible. I forego the usual emotional turmoil of looking at a sink full of dishes and instead concentrate on trying to get as much dog hair off the sofa as possible. As soon as I'm done Oscar sits right back where I just cleaned making sure to cover it once more with fluff. It's a daily stand off between us and he always wins. Then I get some incense and, starting at the front door I work clockwise around the house cleansing the space. I say a quiet chant under my breath and visualise any and all unsettled energy leaving my house through the opened windows. I go top to toe and end right back where I started. I then draw a protective symbol in smoke over the back of the door and go to my readings room to start my meditations. My house gets a lot of spiritual traffic. It's not just the spirits and their residue that I am cleansing but so many people in so many intense emotional situations pass through my home that I like to make sure there is no imprint left. Last week I sat on the sofa after a client had left and I hadn't closed down properly and within minutes I felt what they were feeling. They had left a little imprint in my home and I had sat right in the middle of it!

 

 

My home is different to most of yours in that it is also a place of business and for lack of a better word a place of spiritual connection. That doesn't mean though that your home doesn't need a good cleanse from time to time. I always do a little something extra on the full moon but you choose whatever time is most appropriate. Make it as part of your routine. You don't need to use incense, you can use crystals or a pendant or even just visualisation. Once client of mine visualises while she sweeps in the morning! The symbolic action isn't as important as the intention behind it. You are taking time to reclaim your space and to make sure that you are creating a safe space. When I left my last home I walked around each room spending real time cleansing the space as best I could. That last place was hugely transformational for me and it was the nucleus of my spiritual journey. I went room to room with incense and stones to bring with me all the energy that was meant for me and to disperse what was no longer needed. It's an important thing to do when you leave a home, to ensure you don't leave any pieces of you behind.

 

 

Any place that you have experienced an intense emotion can also be a place where you leave an imprint. This is actually the root cause of what most people call “hauntings”. It really is just energy that is translateable. Sometimes it is a haunting, sometimes a cross section in the time line but more often than not it's just a whole bunch of conjested energy. A good cleansing and it normally goes away. Now for most of you a good swish through the house once a week or once a fortnight is plenty, work with your instinct to see how often it needs. I do recommend that you do it though. Try my practices if you like, use an incense that you like or if you want to be more traditional any sage, sandalwood or myrrh will do! Use whatever feels right. Also, a little tip, if you are manifesting something in your life right now you can do a little sweep around the house with your desired energy. Lavender is a good one to attract love, patchouli is good for money and chamomile is a good herb to burn to promote peace. Play about with it and see what works. Your home is your sanctuary, your domain and your castle. You get to choose what lives in it's walls. Assert your presence there and be sure to keep hold of what is rightfully yours.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The fire within.

 

There is something inside of you that is bigger, brighter and stronger than any situation that you face. We are all part of this wonderful tapestry and if we are brave enough to look within then we can not only face what is coming but also sometimes even sway the tide. We live in a culture right now that not only supports but rewards victims. I have unfortunately come across too many people who are happy to sit in the middle of a mess and revel in it. We all know these kinds of people, the ones that love to be ill, the ones that love to sit and spread gossip about others, the ones that find any excuse to remain an emotional infant. People use anger, injustice, apathy, rage as excuses to check out of their lives when in fact they can be the launch pads to sink into a richer experience. I firmly believe that no matter what situation you find yourself in that there is something you can do about it. Even if that something is to find a way to soothe yourself until it passes. No matter how small, no matter how devastating an impact might have had in your life you still get to choose what to focus upon. That's where change begins.

 

 

I read a long time ago about the “miracle man” Morris Goodman. A man who was paralysed after a plane crash leaving him unable to breath unaided, with his only means of communication being able to blink. He set his mind to work and in an unprecedented amount of time he was able to walk, unaided out of the hospital. Now that is a remarkable story and I am a great believer in magical thinking but I'm also aware that life is not as simple as thinking positively to change everything. The point is that when all else had failed him he took what he had left, which was his mind and made the most of it. Not only made the most of it but challenged himself to a little bit more each day until eventually he could function. Now most of us are not in that dire straits but we can still take the lesson and apply to ourselves. We can still check ourselves for our own version of victim syndrome to see whether it is playing out in our lives in any way. Sit for a moment and ask yourself which parts of you may be stunting your growth? Is there a part of you that will sit down and whine about how terrible things are rather than become pro active in the middle of it?

 

 

There is a small part of that in everyone, let's be honest! To not have it would be to say to yourself that you are without fear and the only people without fear are sociopaths! The point is to ensure that this part of your mind is not dominant. The point is that you recognise that your soul, your spirit is more powerful than anything that you face. The point is to see that you have a fire in you that can envelope anything that you encounter and make it your own. We are all adults here and we all know that life won't always go the way we expect it but that's not to say that we can have ownership over what comes our way. Once the initial shock of change passes look to what can be done rather than what you have lost. Look to the change you can create rather than what you feel was taken. Use what you have to make your life as good as you can. You get to do this. You deserve the best you can reach for.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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What is beauty to you?

 

 I sometimes think that most of the reason I feel a deep sense of “otherness” sometimes is that I am still in shock that I landed in a human body. I think most of you reading this can understand what I'm saying with that. Have you ever just looked around at the crazyness of the world and thought about how ridiculous it is? It's like I can't quite get over that I'm here again! I simultaneously see the majesty and the absurdity of the life I am living. I see that we are evolved apes hurtling through space on a hunk of rock and I also see that we are energy beings of pure light creating a multiverse as we leap off the imagined boundary of identity. That identity is something we make a huge meal out of. As soon as you incarnate your body is judged, placed in a hierarchy, abused with bad foods and pretty much languaged to you as something that carries your brain around. We don't get that we are a part of a huge eco system that is the human frame. You are literally sat inside a Universe of your very own experiencing another Universe around you. A circle within a circle.

 

 

When I was young I was shown through culture that there were only two types of human body. Ugly and beautiful. If you weren't considered beautiful then you had to pretty much cease to exist and “know your place”. Yes, I totally bought into that way of thinking for a long time. Most of it was just youth, we consider physical beauty a lot more when we are young because that's the time when we are most likely to want to attract a mate but; I still have a few emotional habits from that time that continue to show up. I fell into the latter category, or at least I felt like I did and it definitely impacted my ability to claim ownership over what I felt I wanted. When I look back into my patterns the belief that I was an “ugly duckling” contributed heavily to me moving forward. It's the nucleus of the “Who do you think you are?” egoic journey. I see this play out in so many of my clients who feel like because they have decided that they aren't beautiful don't reach beyond what they have been told they deserve to go for what they truly deserve. Sometimes I think that our culture has gotten worse with this way of thinking especially now that everything is filtered and projected on line. Then again I also see that there is a new tapestry of beauty that we are creating in the world that is all inclusive. It's the idea that we are all beautiful in our own way and that it is on us to show the world what that beauty is.

 

 

Human beings are a collection of lumps and bumps, smells and burps and one body is no better than another. The emotional impact of how your body is judged in the world is still on you to unravel. Consciously or not you give the words that are spoken to you meaning which, if you've told yourself a negative story means that you can UN-tell it. I'm not going to pretend and say that I always feel beautiful but on the whole yes I do but beauty is no longer about my capacity to attract a mate. That level of beauty doesn't interest me any more. For me now beauty is a verb. It's a deep gratitude to be alive inside this weird body that has primal hands, teeth, eyes and ears. I am in a space mostly of deep fascination with this human animal I get to experience from the inside out. I can't think of anything more beautiful that where I am right now in this moment. I do everything I can not to demean it by adding to the mix my judgments of how I think I might be perceived by others. I won't demean it by giving the words and actions of others weight in my life. I get to define what beauty is for me and you do too. Acknowledge where you have been but please, see the beauty that lies everywhere, that will be how you step forward into something brighter.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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The Universe has no gaps in it.

 

 To think of the Universe as conscious entity can boggle the mind if you spend too much time on it. To know that this aware entity is the very thing we live inside of, are built out of, not only that but it is the force that lives us can feel a little overwhelming, especially on a Monday morning but bear with me. It's like us being aware of every blood cell, every strand of hair, every molecule of oxygen inside our own bodies. Not only is the world around us alive and conscious but it has within it a sort of design. A plan that I've always found to be more of a piece of art in progress. Not progress as in a sense of being incomplete but a painting that is continually repainting itself for the purpose of expressing and feeling what it would be like to paint itself. Take some time to chew on that last sentence, I've already re read it three times. This Universe has no gaps in it, there is no place that is not created from the giant tapestry that feels like falling in love. So if everything is built on love then that means you already live in a state of completion. That everything around you is eternal. It means that nothing is ever really taken away from you or for that matter ever really given to you. You are a warden of your experiences.

 

 

So as we start this week together (some of you have a day off because of bank holiday) we are on the cusp of some major shifts both culturally and globally. We have all experienced loss, some of us more personally than others but I want you to know that the Universe really does have your back. Even in the midst of your pain, even if it feels like the tides of the ocean are going against you nothing has been ripped from you because as I said, nothing has ever really been given. You get the joy of experiencing life. The life within your own body and to wonder at the world through the looking glass as other spirits inhabiting bodies bounce around this planet with you. We are a fascinating bunch! Sometimes the week ahead can feel daunting, especially if we are in jobs that we don't like or relationships that are collapsing or even if we are on the cusp of a major life cascade but to know, to understand that there is something behind it can really take the edge off. To know that what is falling apart can be what falls into place is something I have always had great comfort from.

 

 

The Universe talks to us all day. It is in constant communication with who you really are in relation to everything around you. So what do you think it is saying to you today? It may be encouraging you to hang on for a bit longer or to let go and let it take over. I don't think there is ever one hard and fast rule when it comes to communicating with the Universe. There have been times when I have been told to completely surrender my life and put it in her hands so she can sort it out and there are times when she has told me to figure it out myself. Either way she is always there for a good natter and to help me find the tiny little nugget of wonder at the heart of whatever is going on. So whatever you are facing this week know, truly KNOW that there is a whole Universe with you, working for you, working around you, in front of you and in all the tiny places you haven't seen yet. Do everything you can not to take what is in front of you too seriously. Let gratitude and sillyness be your sword and shield and listen, don't forget to listen.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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A conversation with passion.

 

I've spoken many times about passion. For me it used to be a guiding principle in my life. I was definitely one of those people that woke up with a surge of energy and I fueled it into my life. I had absolute certainty that my passion was what I was going to be doing for the rest of my life. I also had certainty that my passion had meaning behind it. I built not just a story about who I was around it but I guided my whole life around it. I thought that if God gave me a passion then it must mean something and that something must be that I was going to be terribly successful at it. Then of course I learned my lesson. I woke up one morning and my passion, my desire, the burning flame within my heart had gone out. It sent me into a tail spin because when I say I had organised my life around passion I truly meant it. EVERYTHING I was invested in was geared around it. Now on the surface and culturally speaking that sounds like a good thing and everyone around me applauded me for pursuing what I believed to be my calling. Of course when it all fell apart around me I tried desperately anything I could to reignite it but it just wasn't happening. Eventually I had to sit myself down with a skip filled with tea and figure out the lesson.

 

 

Passion is not meant to be followed which is not to say that it can't be or shouldn't be acknowledged. It is designed to play a part in the huge tapestry of your experience but it is not the be all and end all. Now that I am out the other side of the lesson I see that passion is more like a flower. It grows, blooms, dies and returns to the earth to be reborn into something new. Passion has seasons and the danger of organising your life around it is that when it does recede into the earth once more you will be left with a lot of empty space. I do acknowledge my passion these days but the only thing I organise my life around is my intuition. That's the only thing I follow. I see passion now more as an invitation to play. I dive in and give it a go but never at the expense of myself, my life or those around me. I know that for my own mental well being I need to be spiritually and creatively engaged so I make room for inspiration and passion on a daily basis but my life is not organised around them, it is organised around being open to receive them.

 

 

The idea culturally is that we should go out there and “find” our passions but I know that through my own studies that we already have everything that we need. We are born with it all right inside of us. So what's the point in looking for something that you already have? Just sit back and listen to see what passion or creativity has to say to you. What is your relationship with it like? For me it used to be an obsessive, fundamentalist, self destructive one in which I ultimately ended up uprooting myself from the essence of who I am. Now my relationship with passion is more like a delicate dance. A rigadoon if anything. I am respectful of it and there are boundaries in place in my life if it is to show up. Thankfully it does more often than not but the times when it returns to earth and renews now, even though it can still feel a little jarring it no longer decimates my life. There are so many things going on around me that I see it now as I think I was always meant to. A part of what I experience instead of a burning flame.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Removing toxic people.

 

It is my firm belief that if a relationship, any relationship has it's foundations in love that it can, at some point return to that. Unfortunately what tends to happen over time, especially if you are not energy aware is that you begin to negotiate parts of your mind, spirit, your entire energy system even as the relationship evolves. You let small things slip and slide, you get to a point where you can't be bothered to speak up, you check out emotionally and then once auto pilot has set in you've hammered a nail in the coffin. There are some relationships in my past that have been killed off completely because of this. Because I allowed so much to go unchecked both within myself and the other person that eventually the entire interaction became toxic. I am grateful for these lessons in hindsight because there is nothing on this earth that will get you more clear about your boundaries than someone who betrays them. So what do you do when you wake up in the middle of a situation like this? Are your friends becoming so chaotic you no longer want to hang around them? Is your relationship feeling like it's going off course or has completely jumped the ship? Don't worry, all is not lost. The first things you need to do is recognise the lesson.

 

 

What energy contracts do you have with the people around you? What do you give them permission to take from you? What behaviours do you indulge in that you know are hurting you? In the past I have allowed people to treat me like a punch bag, an accessory, a permanent therapist and I can't blame them for it at all because it was what I offered. I served my soul on a plate. I people pleased at all levels. I put others first above all else which on the surface sounds noble but it's actually energetically really quite dangerous. The problem with helping others without any appropriate boundaries within yourself is that you always end up doing for others what they can do for themselves. You get taken advantage of. You get walked over. It's not your job to blame the other person for doing that, all they were doing was accepting the invitation you laid out for them. Your job is to identify within you what sent out that invite in the first place. For me it was all about approval. The second I found some self worth I stopped investing in this kind of behaviour. I put love as the basis for everything in my life. Anything that didn't match that was not welcome.

 

 

The good thing about recognising your contracts with the people around you is that once you have seen what you are doing you can change them. The other good thing is that you will lose the people that aren't able to meet you where you currently are. It might not feel good at the time but trust me, as someone who's done it, that it feels so much better a little further down the road. Also, once you have decided to live in a “Love or Above” vibration people on that level will find you. People that have no need to take but bring their full selves to the table with no other intention than to play and explore the world around you. So when you are looking at a relationship that appears broken, before you go pointing fingers and diving into the chaos of it all sit back and think about what you bring to the table. What have you allowed to go unchallenged? What have you created as acceptable by your behaviour? Remember that you deserve better, you deserve love, you deserve happiness in whatever form that takes for you and you are the only person that can give that to yourself.

 

 

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The Devil Within,

 

No matter what we do, where we go, how we change, how we evolve, each step forward comes with a struggle. Not the struggle of just moving but the struggle of releasing the story of who we thought we were. We call it the saboteur. The part of us that seems to want to mess up everything that we are moving towards. It's a good thing to be aware of it and to study what it brings to the surface. It's the voice that tells you that you aren't good enough, pretty enough, talented enough. It's the voice that tells you that there's no point in trying, to give up, to with hold love, to invest in power plays and ego based arguments. It's sole goal is to perpetuate itself. This is because for all the glamour and grandeur that we give the inner saboteur it's still just the ego. It's our tribal story. It's our inherited pattern. It's who we tell ourselves we are rather than who we have the potential to become. It's bedfellows are fear and apathy. The more you hear negative brain chatter, the more you know that you are in the grips of the person you were but there is a silver lining to that. The more desperately you inner chatter tries to perpetuate itself the more you have the capacity to change it. In fact, if this voice within you is getting louder then it probably is already being challenged, that's the reason it acts like it's fighting for it's life.

 

 

Become an observer of your thoughts. You are not what you think. You are also not what you feel. Both are reactions to the stories that you tell yourself. Both are expressions of the soul that is living you. Right now there is a part of you that is aware of the fact that you are reading this. There is a part of you that is commonly called “the silent witness”, that is watching you think, feel, live and delighting in the experience of it all. The more you learn to connect with that part of yourself the more you learn that you are not the life that you are living, you are the force that's living it. I know, I know that's a little deep for a monday morning but there it is anyway. Let's start our week knowing that no matter what it is we have to face that we are a part of it but not necessarily of it. The more you connect with this silent witness part of you the less you are effected by the things going on around you. You see life for the movie that it is. You see through the veil and into the magic that is interwoven and the bedrock of all that expresses life.

 

 

You are going to experience conflict in your time on this planet and the way to survive that is to remember that you are not what is going on around you. Shift your identity to one that is based on your soul, not your personality. The inner saboteur will tell you that what you are going through is important, it will tell you that people, places and things are important. It will tell you that money, fame, external beauty is important and it will draw everything it needs to you to back that up but it's not the whole truth. Another truth is that even though those things seem to matter culturally, there is a bigger story at play. One that says that life is a canvas and we get to play. I've said many times that we are both the evolved ape hurtling through space on a giant rock and an expression of light indulging in the idea of reality over and over again. Don't just live your life, surrender to the essence of it. Stay in the quiet space of the light that is watching you live.

 

 

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Big Love,

 

 

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What can be done?

 

 The pain lay across my chest. I had been in bed for weeks now and being 18, full of energy at a time before internet, when your mum would offer to carry the TV from downstairs up to your room to keep you entertained I was just bored. I stared up at the ceiling and tried to force myself to sit up in bed, having to do it slowly so as to not rip the stitches that were across my back. The lung surgery I had was apparently not a complete success but at least my lungs wouldn't collapse any more. My lungs started collapsing when I was 17 and within months it became a regular occurence. Almost every other month I was in hospital unable to breathe. I won't go into the medical bumph here but it was not a fun time. The bubbles of air that were around my lungs kept “popping” and continued to do so but the op did it's job and kept my lungs in place. The good news is that I would make a full recovery, the bad news was that I would have to have 4 to 5 months of bed rest. Fortunately this happened to me when I was young so the momentum of youth and a young immune system meant that I was up and about in a normal-ish was within 2 months. So long as I took my time I was O.K. What I'd also done during that time in bed, to keep myself entertained was to write a book!

 

 

I'm a firm believer in creativity. Not just painting and music and all that stuff but in the creative adaptability of the human mind. I truly believe that no matter what situation you are in that there is always something you can do. Like me being stuck in bed for a few months, I could have just sat there and done nothing but I chose to make the most of the time. I saw my limits and worked within them. There is something that happens to people when they come up against a brick wall in whatever form that takes. When dreams are shattered, when lives fall apart, when what we have been working towards just slips through our fingers that is when you see the meat and bones of a person. After the initial shock, tears and drama there is ALWAYS a moment, a pin drop silence where you get to decide if you are going to be a victim to your situation or whether you are going to figure out what to do with what is left. I have been at points where my entire life has collapsed from underneath me and the thing that helps me through those times is to focus on what needs to be done. What can be done? Being pro active within your situation will keep you sane.

 

 

If there are no jobs out there for you right now think about creating one for yourself. If there is no one out there to buy you flowers, buy them for yourself! You have a choice to get things moving no matter where you are. I understand that when things fall to pieces it can take a while for you to get back on your feet but once the dust has settled you get to empower yourself with your own choices. Many times in my life I've been out of work, heart broken, depressed, sick and I've watched many of my goals and dreams fall apart in my hands. During those times I've taken the pieces of what's been left and tried my best to make them work. I've taken many detours, sometimes complete 180's but I always do my best to take ownership of the moment. What needs to be done? What can be done? What is left to do? Take a step towards ownership today by looking out over the landscape of your life and using what you have available to you to move yourself forward. You are stronger, more capable and built out of a ferocious love that is unstoppable. Just be brave enough to believe it.

 

 

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First step to forgiveness.

 

My heart felt like a heavy piece of iron that I was carrying around and there was nothing I could do to shift it. I would cry pretty much on the hour and no matter what I did I could not sit still inside this pain. My first heart break. We've all been there and we know the impact it can have on our future relationships. In fact I think the first heart break can often set the tone for how you approach all future relationships. It certainly did for me. Unfortunately men don't seem to be raised with access to the emotional language needed to move themselves successfully through these points in their lives. The only expression of emotion that was ever permitted for me, like most men was anger. So that's what I did. I chose anger above all else. Whenever I felt the pain or the overwhelming loss of that first cut I chose to focus on any grasping sense of injustice I could hold onto, all for the sole purpose of inspiring my rage. I did this well, too well in fact, to the point of where this rage became so normalised it was a part of my every day. Forgiveness was not even a word in my vocabulary back then because I related forgiving someone with a power struggle. They somehow “won” if I “let them off the hook”. I hadn't realised at that point that forgiveness was a gift that you give to yourself to honour the lesson more than the experience.

 

 

As soon as I was aware of the power of forgiveness I wanted it. It felt almost arrogant at first to put myself in the position of forgiving another human being but in truth I was just afraid of the transformational power that it has. It has the power to reset your life, to reorganise your entire energy system in a way that puts love at it's centre. Forgiving my first love was actually the easy part. Now that so many years had passed I could see the insane energy contracts I was sending out at that time in my life and I could see clearly how unfair I had been. To cut a long story short I took responsibility for my part in it all. The hard work was actually forgiving myself not just for how I behaved at that time but how I used that pain to justify the million little personality traits I had left unchecked in myself as a result of that. I wore that victimhood like a badge of honour. We all know people like this, it's irritating that I was one of them for a while! They send invites out to their own personal pity party and expect you to show up ready for their song and dance show. I was SO ready to let this part of my life go and I could see the toxic energy that it inspired around me so I made the commitment to forgive. To forgive everyone for everything. Including myself.

 

 

All forgiveness starts with figuring out what you learned and then becoming so grateful for the lesson that it eclipses the experience. Piece by piece I became grateful for the insight that journey sent me on. I became grateful for the boundaries I was now aware of within myself. I became grateful for the person I had to opportunity to become as a result of the heart break. I became grateful for the catalyst the pain caused within me to become a more compassionate, loving and caring person. This journey did not happen over night. The glamour of victimhood is everywhere in our culture and it can be tricky to stay out of it. To herald yourself as a “survivor”. You don't need any of that. You just need to find the parts of yourself that you are and celebrate them. Love who that experience has the potential to turn you into and stay on that path with all you have. Today that pain and that experience are a distant memory but I am SO grateful that I went through them. They matured my heart, mind soul and I would not have the capacity for self love and accepting real, genuine love from those around me that I do now if I hadn't experienced that. Just take it a day at a time, one grateful moment after another.

 

 

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Tapestry of Compassion.

 

We are all energy beings. We are one being of infinite light expressing itself in a million different ways. One is not better than the other. When spiritual texts say that we are all one, they don't mean one species or one culture, they mean one being. That being is evolution itself, it is the constant reaching for new life and all of it's expressions. There are no boundaries, only the idea of them. Death is nothing more than a line in the sand. That is not to say that the idea of boundary, identity, solid matter are not important but I think it's also important to recognise that it is only part of the story. You are both an evolved ape of a chunk of rock hurtling through space and a being of incredible power manifesting your reality into digestable chunks called “moments”. We are raised with one side of the equation. To see our bodies and the touchable, dense matter of our experience as the be all and end all but this really is just the veil. There is so much more beneath the surface. Most people instinctively know this at a root level and spend a lot of their lives trying to argue it out of their own minds. But, what if you didn't? What if you were raised to consider the life force energy of the world within you at all points? How would that change your life?

 

 

One of the doorways to this light is compassion. Compassion is actually an expression of our interconnectedness. I look out at the world we have created sometimes and I am scared at how little compassion is exercised or how it compartmentalised. Once you truly embrace compassion you can't be selective about it. Compassion is learning to love all human beings for where they are right now in their experience and committing yourself to helping when and where you can. I know that for some people the idea of compassion would have you believe that you need to open your life, your wallet, your soul to everyone who wants a piece but that's not the case. Like I've said many times sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do for someone is to love them at arms length. How you exercise compassion is always built upon the love and care that you exercise within yourself. How do you talk to yourself? Would you talk to someone else the way you think about who you are?

 

 

So right now, looking out over the landscape of your life what is the most compassionate action you can take? Where could you be helping those around you? Where could you be uplifting yourself? You don't ever gather light and hold onto it. It's a fluid substance that is channelled through you. The more you open your heart up to it the richer and more vast it's flow through your life. The more you have the more you instinctively want to reach out and help others. When I see people who have a lot fighting with themselves within the energy of greed, which is only another shade of fear I pray that they reach inside their hearts and learn to be gentler with themselves. In doing so they may open a door to their own love and in turn begin to recognise it in the world around them. When you operate with love, when you choose to see it in people who can't yet see it in themselves, when you choose to see it in people that have actively tried to hurt you then you ground yourself in an energy that is part of the tapestry of compassion. Choose for better for yourself and for others. Love despite circumstance and love because of it. Let compassion be your guiding light and watch as it elevates you.

 

 

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Trust.

 

 No matter where I go and what I do I know, in my heart of hearts that I am taken care of. I know that I am loved. I know, that no matter what pain I am facing in the moment that it's nothing more than a stepping stone to a new level of light. I know that when people are mean to me, all they are doing is showing me their true selves and it has nothing to do with me, unless I allow it to. I know that when I lose money it's because I am meant to realign my energy with wealth and I know that when I have extra it's a good idea to use it within the energy of play and to share it with those around me. I have been heart broken, emotionally wounded and I have seen some pretty dark places both within my life and being witness to the million shades of mysticism that is the human psyche. Most importantly, the one thing that I do when I feel my life shift under my feet and the thing that I know will get you through anything that impacts your life is to trust. Trust with a capitol “T”!! I trust that the Universe knows more than I do, works more than I do and creates more than I could ever understand. All I need to do to open myself to that majesty is to do what I need to do to find the quiet place within myself and listen.

 

 

You are not just living in your body on this planet. You are being lived by an energy that is conscious and aware. It is the energy that turns the planet, creates life, evolves it, replenishes it. You are the Universe in motion and that motion is the good of all things looking to express itself. It may not always feel like sunshine and lollipops but that is just part of the process. We experience so much unneccessary pain and stagnant moments when we overtly personlise the world. We make it all about us in a way that is inherantly disconnecting. Whilst it's true that we are here to express and explore the soul, to have fun, the leap off the idea of boundary into the fountain of experience we are also here to look into the eyes of other souls and share in that journey. Your life is both all about you and nothing to do with you. Sometimes I think it's reminiscent of the whole “Fate Vs Free Will” argument. We have both. We always did.

 

 

There is so much of your life that was set into motion before your feet ever hit the ground but that doesn't mean you don't have the capacity to create wonderful things on the planet out of free will. The only constant we have access to is that the substance of the world is something that feels like falling in love. Everything is always moving in the direction of love. It's that nature of the world around you. Even if it doesn't make sense, even if it hurts like hell right now, relax into it. Let the current take you downstream. Let the light and love at the heart of your being float to the surface. Trust. Know that the Universe has your back because you are a part that Universe. You are not seperate. Love recognises itself and provides itself constant platforms of expression. When we fight it, when we make it all about us, when we make our lives feel very small we can pinch ourselves off from the love that we are built from but we can never cut ourselves off from it. We are built out of it. So relax, trust, know that it's all working out in your best interests even when it doesn't feel like it. If you are just willing to be quiet, to listen and to follow then you'll find yourself exactly where you are meant to be.

 

 

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Big Love,

 

 

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How light can be fierce.

 

 I've spoken many times about my journey into grace. For some people, finding that space of peace is an incremental journey but for me, it was a singular point. An explosion of light that changed me forever. I remember it clearly. The smell of the sea. The tears on my face. The moment the sky seemed to open up and I felt the awareness that I the space in between the molecules of matter. For lack of a better phrazing I connected to the energy, the conscious love that is the fabric of the world around us. Some call it finding God, some call it invoking the spirit, the languaging of it doesn't matter. What does matter, at least to me, is that it happened and I have forever been changed. The problem with my “waking” up process was that I had no idea how to acclimate or language what I was experiencing at the time. All I knew was that in an instant the life I had been living now felt foreign to me. My friends now seemed like strangers, the dreams that had kept me alive at points in my life now felt like burdens, my career and all sense of self was shattered. I lived inside a silent mind for about 6 months and during that time I connected with my inner voice in a way that it could no longer be denied.

 

 

This light, this evolution brought me directly to my truth and once I had found that most authentic part of me I could never comfortably lie to myself again. The thing with personal transformation that doesn't get spoken about enough is how deeply uncomfortable it is. You will feel the boundaries of your pain more than you ever have before. You will lose people, I lost a whole circle of people and for a while I stood on my own. That part of your journey is inevitable. It's surprising how few people will be able to stand with you in your truth but, as the premise of our Universe dictates, light recognises light. The connections, friendships that have turned up since that time have solid foundations in love. The relationships I have formed since that time are soul connections, created for the purpose of allowing us to mutually express our authentic selves. If you've been part of the spiritual community for a while you'll definitely see that there are some who play at this and some who are really willing to get into the belly of the beast. You can stick as many crystals as you like on your crown chakra but if you are not dealing with the deep intuitive pull to take your life in a new direction then it's not going to work.

 

 

If you are going to call light in you are going to have to be prepared to deal with what it brings. You can't invite an angel to your table and then ignore what it has to say. Do not mistake light for gentle, not always. Light can be fierce. It is the defining boundary of your conscience and the more you stay in that space the more your life will begin to manifest from a place of truth. You will sit with people in the space of love, doing something born out of love and in a body that you can't help but love. Your identity will shift from body based to spirit based. Truth will linger on your tongue, even in the moments when it might seem inappropriate to do so. All I can offer, if you are calling for an experience like this is to treasure it and to hold onto it when it comes. As your life shifts to resonate with the new frequency you will have to learn a new way of living, often with new people, often with new dreams and goals. The most important thing to do is to keep as vigilantly as you can to the space of your own honesty. That will be your sword and shield.

 

 

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Big Love,

 

 

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Finding new alters.

 

I crawl out of bed, give my boyfriend a kiss and start my routine. Breakfast, meditations, affirmations and all the things that need to get done to prepare myself for the day. Then of course as soon as it's done I give myself a little mindless time on social media. I know that it get's a bad reputation these days but then let's be honest all we ever seem to hear about is the dark side of what's going on at the moment. Personally, I love social media. I love connecting to new people and re connecting with those who I thought were gone from my life forever. For those who are my age and older we grew up without it so we do have a different perspective on the whole thing. We tend to be more cautious about what we put out there and we also understand that it is a public platform. When I see some of the younger kids today I do worry that because of the way social media is intrinsic to our culture that they aren't learning about things like privacy ( people my age also understand the irony of a “private” online profile ) without which they have no access to dignity and integrity. Social media can be a wonderful platform to create real meaningful connection or, it can be a reactive, cyclical regurgitation of opinions acting as if they are facts. I also think that there can be a spiritual component to social media. It is after all a platform in your life but, what would happen if you started treating that platform like an alter?

 

 

The Universe around you reacts to the energy you cultivate within yourself. The words you speak, the thoughts you think, the feelings you generate and react to all have weight in our Universe. So take a good look at your socail media right now and use it as an indicator as to what energy you are putting out there. I see a lot of mindless chatter, I see a lot of hate masquerading as things like satire. I also see clearly constructed ideas that are disingenuously designed to create a mask. There's a lot of half truths out there that really aren't fooling anyone. How much of that are you perpetuating? Imagine God herself was listening to what you put up on your page. What would you share on there? If social media were treated as a contribution to the world what are you sharing? Take some time to think about whether you are reacting or consciously contributing to that platform. It's a wonderful tool and like anything in itself it is a benign entity. It only becomes a force for good when it is used as one.

 

 

Weirdly enough as I was writing this I got a notification from facebook that it's been 10 years to the day since I joined! Before that I was on myspace, before that I was writing blogs on my own website. I have always tried to contribute, create and work from a place of service but I would be lying if I said I didn't, at some points, fall off the wagon hard. I invested in sarcasm, cynicism, outright anger at points and at the end of the day it didn't help me or anyone else around me. I did nothing other than perpetuate those ideas and feelings in my own life. I know I share a lot in these blogs sometimes, especially when it is in relation to my spiritual lessons and it is my intention to be honest, truthful, to show up for myself and for those who want to join me on this journey. I love creating and sharing and connecting with those in my community. I am always looking for ways to serve more, to generate more light and to really bring the vibration of love firstly to myself and to use whatever platforms I have to share that with those around me. So before you post/tweet/send think for a second. Is that helping you? Is it honest? Is it moral? Take some time and re evaluate your contribution, you may find more paths to love than you knew to look for.

 

 

 

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Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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