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Making your own happy!

 

It normally stars with me slipping into a lull. I start watching more T.V than I want to, I get restless, I don't want to meditate. I basically start to morph into a whiny teenager. Stu even says to me that I have my “whiny face” on ( which may tell you more about our relationship than I would want you to know! Haha ). He's right though and I know that when that maudlin, angst ridden persona starts to show it's face that I need to get back to the things that I know lift my spirit. In the past I didn't recognise what was happening. I hadn't fully shed my own victimhood and I used to believe that emotions were things that happened to you rather than a relationship that you built. Becuase of this the whining went on for much longer than it needed to and grew to a much grander more dramatic scale that it ever should have. Thankfully my studies helped me to learn that happiness, or even day to day contentment is something that is generated. Even if you have the best job, the best lover, the best body condition available to you that doesn't guarantee you lasting happiness. You still have to get up, day to day and choose to invest your time into the things that lift you.

 

 

You won't always feel like doing the things that lift you. That sadness is often glamorous and attractive. Who wouldn't want to lay there for a few days feeling all dramatic about themselves? I get it and sometimes I still do it but that's why it's important to have some sort of spiritual practice. It acts a reminder that you have the ability to take control of a situation and make it your own. You may not be able to do much, but you can do something. For instance I mentioned in my blog last week that I hurt my knee ( yes I still can't walk on it ) and for a few days I conveniently “forgot” to check in with myself to see why I had created this situation. There must be a reason I chose to practically confine myself to the house? I'm in the process of unravelling it but for that few days I reveled in the “woe” of it all. Now we all know some people who spend their entire lives in that moment. We all know people who thrive on being ill and make it the topic of all conversations and we have all dabbled on that line ourselves but the question is, once you've realised what you're doing are you going to continue to chose to do it?

 

 

I know you as a powerful creator of worlds. I know that the Universe delivers to us the sum of our own energy even if we don't like what that is. I certainly don't like being sat here with a hot water bottle on my knee writing this but I own the fact that I created this situation. I own that it is on me to take time to heal. It is on me to make the most of what is in front of me and it is on me to find the joy at the centre of it all. My life is my own making and yours is up to you. You may have woken up and found yourself inside a life that doesn't feel like it belongs to you but the second you have woken up is the point where you are most powerful. From that moment on you are no longer a victim of circumstance but a powerful, magical, miracle maker who can shape your life in the direction of your choosing. You can and will become something more than you have been before. But as powerful as you are you still have to step into that power. You still have to take an active approach to your joy. Everyday happiness is built not discovered. It is created not found so go and make something, do something, find a place that lifts you and once you've done that, find another!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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When something is taken away...

 

Well what a start to the week! No sooner had I limped home from Uplands ( hurt my knee yesterday ) and sent out my tarot card on social media I received a call from Stuarts work saying that he is ill and needs to come home. Thankfully one of his work mates brought him back and I have to admit that I panicked a little because he's never ill. So to see him suffering from a migraine so bad that he's actually sick from it was bracing. I wanted to cancel all my clients to look after him but he said he'd be O.K but as it would happen half my day didn't turn up anyway. So I'm donning a Florence Nightingale tabbard and for today I shall be mainly caring! Right now he's sleeping away upstairs and I'm letting him rest. It's strange how clients do drop off when I need my attention to be on something else. It happens a lot. When a family emergency comes up or I'm not feeling well more often than not I don't have to rearrange clients because they cancel themselves. It's just another reminder to me of synchronicity. I get to do just enough to keep my mind level and the rest of my time my attention is on what it needs to be.

 

 

I read a quote recently that has stuck. “Life's rejection is sometimes God's protection.”. I swear there are so many times when I got lifted out, stopped or just plain failed at something I was doing and at the time it feels awful, but, not so long after I see that the “failure” turned out to be the best thing for me. I know that the Universe has my back. I know that everything is always working out for me. It may not seem like it at the time. What I'm going through might completely suck but I know that it's all in my best interests. Hindsight is 20/20 and it's through that lens you can look over your past and see how each thing you have experienced has within it a seed for your exponential growth. The Universe is always calling you towards the best version of yourself which is why sometimes if a path is going to lead you somewhere dark then the Universe will intervene. I know this can make people feel uncomfortable because it seems to negate free will but sometimes the will of the whole that is you needs you somewhere else. There really is a divine order to life and the more you learn to listen to that order the better for you.

 

 

It all comes down to the small voice of God within all of us. I'm not fussy on how it's languaged, God, Universe, intuition, it's the wisest, most enlightened part of us that calls us repeatedly in the direction of our best good. Sometimes through absolute stubbornness or a habitual fear the Universe needs to break down where you are in order to give birth to a better you. This is why when something is taken away from me these days I make the choice to let it go. If someone is pulled out of my life I wish them well. If something I am working towards completely flops then I don't stay in a lamented state for too long. My soul will always try and show itself to me not just through my actions but also through my life. There is a calling out there that you might be missing because you are stuck on something. Don't hate yourself or the Universe for removing the blockage. You haven't been set upon, you have been set free.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Ever been a victim of a rumour?

 

Rumours are the play things of childish minds too afraid to face their own reflection. Like so many of you I have over the years been the focus of and the perpetuator of gossip. When I was young I was acclimated to talking about others. In my mind I genuinely thought it was because I cared about people so much that I wanted to find a solution to their problems for them. I even think I believed that deeply at one point but, the Universe is designed in such a way that your energy goes where your mind flows so all of me, was sent out into the world to “support” others. When your life and conversation is always about talking about other people you give parts of yourself away to them that you have barely had time to enjoy. You enter into a negative energy contract and as good as your intentions are your actions can pave way to a dark space. Have you ever given someone advice and then been enraged when they ignored it? That's the kind of negative energy space I'm talking about. That's how to tell you are not in a space of concern but in a space of shared energy and with that an entitled sense of ownership. Another very dark thing that happens when we spend our time talking about others is that we create an avatar of who they are and then hold them hostage to it. We literally invent a person in our minds and imprint it on the people around us. Of course gossip isn't the only road that takes us to that place but it's a perfect example of how rumours, even ones inside your own mind are nothing other than stories that reflect who you are.

 

 

Have you ever been at the end of a relationship and felt like your partner has ripped a mask off and a completely different person has taken over their body? Me too. Have you ever had a friend say something so hideous that it's made your head spin? Yup. Have you also met up with someone you've heard horrible things about and found them to be the complete opposite? Definitely. I always try my best to follow my own gut when it comes to meeting people but I have to admit that in the past if I heard a bad thing about someone I did always let it taint my interaction with them. I placed my loyalty with my friends instead of my own sense of values and I allowed the projected stories of others taint how I interacted with them. I also have had to varying degrees this happen to me. I have been called mentally ill, a nasty witch, a con artist, amongst many other things and I have become adept at spotting people who have invented a story about who they think I am when meeting me. It's always interesting to see what happens when someone's beliefs are challenged. Some will hang onto what they think they know for grim life whilst others with burn what they think to the ground and rise again renewed.

 

 

What stories have you told yourself about the people around you? Who have you written off as mean? Who have you put on a pedestal? As the Universe dictates you will get back what you put out there. It's weird how often people can and do live up to the story you have told yourself about who they are. So, with that in mind, why not tell a different story? Why not see the authentic, autonomous and wonderfully beautiful people that are under the surface of some of those in your life. You may be lucky enough to already see the beauty in the hearts of those around you and if you are, well done! You see reflections of who you are, you see levels of your ability to connect, to forgive, to love and to empathise displayed in perfect synchronicity around you. When people are telling stories about you, they are only really sharing what they believe about themselves. These days I don't sit in circles and discuss people that aren't there. To be honest, the older I've gotten the less interesting other people's chaos has become. I like a quiet life. I talk towards and with love as often as I can. I share only what feels good and my friendships these days are based in two human beings just enjoying each other. Challenge what you think of others and why you think it. It may say more about you than who you think they are.

 

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Building your own wings.

 

 To say I believe in Angels is kind of silly. I no more need to believe in them than I need to believe in the chair I am sitting on or the laptop I am currently staring into. I don't need to believe in gravity and I don't need to believe in the earth being round, angels just exist and I know this because I've met more than a few. Now I know in the larger energetic sense of it all that angelic beings are respresentations of higher conciousness. I know that they are somehow shaped by the ideas of the people percieving them. I have always seen them in the traditional sense, lit from the inside and sometimes with giant wings. I have also seen them carry flavours of their human lifetimes. I have been taken on journeys by them, lifted out of my body. I have been blessed by them and shown reflected aspects of who I am and challenged in ways I never anticipated. Make no mistake, angels are as strong as they are beautiful and they will hold you to the best of yourself. We each get one, or sometimes more assigned to us throughout our human experience. I have been shown through my own experience and by being an observer of yours the intricate ways in which they intersect your life and how angels as a whole shape who we can become. It is important to note here though that even though their love and grace is unconditional that doesn't mean that they won't give you an energetic boot up the bum sometimes.

 

 

Have you ever had that experience when your life feels like it's absolute chaos and you are praying as hard as you know how to but nothing...nothing seems to be happening? Me too! Sometimes we need to make our own wings and be our own angels. Sometimes the best thing for our development as human beings is to take total and full responsibility for our actions. Angels can't and won't clean up our environment. Angels won't stop our choice to use fossil fuel. Angels won't bring you a million pounds. They will however hold you up to your own light so that you can step into the knowledge that anything is possible. Angels know that you are infinite and that you are powerful and that your life is not just of your own making but also part of a huge tapestry that connects you with everything else. Angels know the angel in you and they sometimes ask that you rely on that rather than generate a parent child relationship with them.

 

 

Where does that leave us? As always the onus on self reliance. You build your life moment by moment. Constantly creating your own dharma/karma by the things you give attention to and how you react to them. Even legitimate anger is still something that you are experiencing and doesn't hurt the person you are angry at. My rule of thumb when working with angels is simple, I pray and then I carry on with the most logical way I can think of to solve the problem at hand. When angels move, you feel it but sometimes they pick up the rope only when you've reached the end of it. When you've done all you can do, all you know to do, that's when it's a good time to sit back and let them take over. The more you let go, the more they can work. Sometimes they will viscerally alter your life and sometimes they will call you to make gentle side steps. They can talk to you directly through dreams and intuitive insights or they can put their words in the mouths of those around you. If people around you suddenly start talking strangely or if you catch your instinct guiding you to listen to someone then maybe that's them. I sometimes catch a sentence in my head. It won't be from a particularly spiritual conversation but sometimes something will just “stick” and after I chew on it for a while I ask if it's guidance and if they say yes then I go with it. Find your language with them. Work on your communication. They are there. They always have been.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Are you at 40%?

 

I have learned over the years to never start my resolutions or goals in January. There's just too many parties, catch ups and hangovers from all the festive activities and I think that each year that I have put my heart and soul into something, something has always gone wrong or awry and I end up feeling like I've failed. So, I always start “officially” in February but I do a “test” in January just to get warmed up for the things that I want to do. That means when things do get in the way of what I want to do then it's O.K. It's only really a “warm up” before I really get going! So if you have started something this year and have already failed, join me by starting again in February. My goals this year are to get back into the space of my body. I want to start running, maybe swimming and I want to deepen my yoga practice. I also wanted to clean up my diet by going completely vegan and just cutting out the last few pieces of dairy that were in my diet ( mainly chocolate ). It comes from an intuitive message I got last year to “take care of my temple”. I'm on it but I'm not going to lie, my running shoes haven't seen the pavement yet and I still haven't gone for a swim. There's no real issue behind not doing it other than a little bit of self sabotage and a little bit of laziness but it did lead me to the question, when do you give yourself a kick up the butt and when is your intuition guiding you in another direction?

 

 

I read a little while ago about the 40% rule. Basically it's an idea in fitness that once you've hit your “wall” of pain you've actually only hit 40% of what you can do. That wall is only a mental barrier and once you've pushed through it you actually have a lot more in your engine. I am not for a second going to give myself licence to say that my intuition has told me to stop running, no, that's just my inability to peel myself off the sofa but, there have been things in other areas of my life where I was trying to push past the 40% when my intuition did tell me to pack up and go home. There are times when I am writing or painting and the concentration starts to make me feel like I am flagging a bit and in that moment I can either put my brushes down or step away from the lap top or I can dig in and get another few hours out of myself. I have trained myself to recognise that space as just a need for a small breather, a cup of coffee and then I get straight back to it. There are times though when I recognise a small voice within me that tells me to stop. It tells me to put my brushes down before I ruin the painting or to stop writing because the quality has plummeted. There is a point where continuing is doing you more damage than if you just push through. So, how do you tell the difference?

 

 

For me I don't stop until that inner voice becomes a nagging pull. There is a difference between a hurdle and a full stop. A hurdle will disappear once you've crossed it but a full stop will drag you down until you cease. Ask yourself if this is a hurdle or not? If you need to come to a complete stop then do it, that doesn't mean that you've failed. It just means that the Universe has found a quicker or better way for you to get where you want to go. It's up to you to decide whether you are at a hurdle or a full stop. What does it feel like? Are you just at your pain barrier? Are you just at your 40%? What do you gain by stopping? What do you gain by carrying on? You may just need a rest or you may just need to find a better way of doing what you are doing. A full stop is not a failure, it is in itself sometimes a deeply disguised hurdle! Just play with the idea for a bit and the answer will come. It always does. Remember that the Universe benefits from the happiest version of you so its guiding you in that direction. Listen carefully and don't forget to play!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James ( and his unused running shoes ) xxx

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Check your thought-habits.

 

 Your mind is a powerful thing. It really is. So much so that even acknowledging that can begin to awaken you to what you have access to. I have always found it so fascinating that with such a force of nature with you that we allow most of it to go on auto pilot. We create our realities by default if you will. Habits are a potent guide to the human experience and they have been an area of deep fascination for me for years. After finding out that habits, beliefs are the foundation blocks of the energy that create our lives I have made it a personal mission of mine to discover what it is I really believe about myself and the world around me. After all, Abraham Hicks says that a belief is just a thought you keep thinking. So what is it that you are thinking? With all the change that is happening within me recently I have challenged a lot of my ideas about who I am and who I was. A certain autopilot of mood and demeanor has been brought to my attention. I am by nature naturally gregarious. I like to speak my mind, explore, try new things and seek expression wherever I think I might be able to find it. Yet years of habit have made me more cautious than I would like to be and more world weary than I have the stomache for.

 

 

One of the things about growing older is developing the skill set to fight being jaded about the world. The world will always show back to you your thoughts about it. If you approach the world with a victim based or martyr based mindset then that's what you will see. Everything is accessible to you it's just what you choose to line up with through the selection of your energy. When I doubt myself I line up with people who pick me apart, passive aggressive bullies or people who enjoy being spiteful. When I am down on myself I come across every depressive and depressing thing I can find. Similarly when I look after who I am, when I love who I am, people who love who they are turn up and a party begins! I know that's a really overly simplified way of putting it but in essence it's how a part of our experience as human beings works. The world reflects back to you the energy you hold. This is why when something turns up in my life that I don't want I always look inward first to see which part of me it is reflecting. I deal with whatever comes up, do my best to forgive, let go and then embody the lesson I have learned. You don't always have to wait for something negative to turn up in order to move forward with your life. In moments when things are quiet you are also allowed to play!

 

 

I think that's definitely one of the mistakes I have made. Seeking lessons solely in pain. Waiting until my life is out of balance in order to seek balance. I sink into the habit of what I am used to and don't challenge what comes my way enough. One of the new choices I have made for this year is to follow my gut more and that's already brought so much to the surface. It's highlighted habits that I didn't know I was continuing and also helping me to distinguish between what used to help me a long time ago and what actually helps me now. It can be difficult to look at your life when it is content and have the guts enough to demand that it be better. To look at the boundaries of your own mind and dare to ask for more. Are you a victim of your own mind? Are you courageous enough to demand that life go from good to great? Where in your psyche do you limit yourself? Take some time and really delve into the nature of your thought habits. Who do you think what you do and the way you do? Does it serve you? Did it used to? Do you want to continue thinking that way? Remember that you are not your mind. You are not the person thinking your thoughts. You are the awareness of your thoughts. Choose and choose wisely the energy you hold because it will dictate your life.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Setting the right tone for the year.

 

I'm back! I'm settled and I can not believe it's a month today since I moved into this house! What a wonderful and exhausting time! We still have boxes everywhere because on the weekends when we weren't running around doing house moving stuff, then the festive season stuff, my poor Stu got sick from all the lack of rest! So, I morphed into Florence Nightingale for a few weeks! Most of the house is now clean, useable and we are deciding what we want to do with what room. It's all the exciting bits now, colours and paints and wall papers, it's like a giant canvas to me and I really feel a strong urge to nest. Also, we have a coal fire here ( which I will change to make more eco friendly ) but as it turns out I lack the basic human skill of fire making so watching me do that a few nights ago was a comedy sketch in itself. Now this is always what I consider the first week of January because it's the first full week where there are no parties, interuptions or anything major going on. It's just head down and back to work. I'm eager to get my head back into doing proper readings again and back into my normal routine.

 

 

I can't ignore though that something profound has shifted. I'm sleeping better, feeling more clear and the readings I'm doing in this house just seem a little bit more relaxed. I have also noticed a little change in my goal setting. I do need my goals. I am a work horse and typical bloke in that respect. If I don't have a set point to work towards I inevitably end up watching Netflix and eating too much sugar. When I have a plan in front of me I just tick it off as I go along and I feel much better in doing so. What I have noticed in the last month is the lack of pressure behind my goals now. I have begun to just work rather than lash at my own back to get myself motivated. This whole process of moving home and how it happened has strengthed my relationship with my intuition and has also helped me to unravel ideas of intention and intentionality. I havent' added any new goals to my lists for this year other than to replay some of the fun projects I didn't get done last year but, what I have done is added a central core intention. To deepen my relationship with my intuition. Which is the same as saying to deepen my relationship with my inner being. Which is the same as saying to make more time to be curious about the world.

 

 

It's important before we run head first into our resolutions and working lives for the next year that we bring to the table a core need to reserve time to wonder at the world around us. It's the bread crumbs of the soul that I find so interesting. I love to watch things grown and shape and shift. Each time I have been open enough to follow, really follow my intuition my life has changed in beautiful ways. It has brought me a healthier body, a healthier social circle, a wonderful relationship and now a new home. I know this time of year is always full of new ideas and new beginnings but I think that above all it would benefit us to reserve the right to scrap all of them if our intuition tells us to. For me I will keep plodding along as always but this year my intention is to keep a closer ear to the ground. To make a more concerted effort towards creating silence enough to hear the whispers of my soul. Sound like a good idea to you? Give it a try!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Happy New Year!

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Last blog of 2017!

 

 Although I have more writing to do this will probably be the last blog of 2017 and blimey, what a year it has been! I still havent' quite processed everything yet but I know a little time away from work will do me good and give me some much needed perspective. For reasons I can't quite understand this has been a challenging one. Energetic reserves have been on empty, the pain of the labour towards birthing a new life has been apparent. I have felt more battered and bruised this year and it has forced me to re examine many primary beliefs. Yesterday I sat with a friend and we mulled over the twists and turns of where we have been. I have ended this year in a new house, with a new smile sat with new friends and I couldn't be happier. I also can't ever remember being this tired! The Universe is always consistant though and I know that while one journey has ended another has already begun. I know that this new phaze in my life is also new soil for new things to grow. All I am focussing on right now is resting. I have a whole tin of Quality Street and I have managed to avoid all Stranger Things spoilers so that I can do a whole marathon in front of the telly on the weekend. This Christmas it's just me and my boys in our new home in front of our new fire.

 

 

I am casually planning my next year because as I've mentioned this year I have failed to complete any of my goals. Like, not a single one! I am not mad about it nor am I frustrated with myself because I know why and I have a little more perspective now on the whole thing. The great thing about failing in that way is the opportunity to re examine whether your heart is still in a project. Are the things that I am planning to do genuine extensions of my heart or am I just on a list-a-thon regurgitating things that I think I should be doing? These are all important things for me to mull over. More than anything the happiness of my day to day has to come first. I have to be the best version of myself for myself and in turn for the people around me. It's weird that since the move I can feel a whole shift in who I am. Nothing huge, just a relaxing into a more authentic version of who I am now. I believe everything is symbolic and a shift of residence has shifted a point of focus. I am getting ready to pluck more from the Universe and see what she has to bring me.

 

 

So as we round up the year it's O.K to spend a little time looking back. Pick up the lessons you've learned and check in with yourself to see if your life looks like you. Not who you were but who you are becoming. Make sure your plans include you. Not just your work, your relationship, your family or the million and one little things that demand your attention. Make sure you are showing up for you. The world needs you to have a full and present heart and you do too. Work on your body, the love you pour inwards and be sure to think about not just the goals you want to achieve but the kind of person you want to be. Where could you be better towards yourself? Where could you exercize more compassion? The more you turn that inward the more you are likely to express it to your community and to the world around you. If you buy into the media and marketing campaigns right now you might believe that we are in a hostile and divisive time. We're not. We are just at the end of one cycle and giving birth to something new. We've done this before. We know how to grow. So together let's take a new step.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Have a wonderful holiday!

 

 

Big love,

 

 

Ryan James and Family!

 

Xx

 

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Taking brave steps.

 

A journey towards wellness is a sequence of a thousand steps. That's really all we can do, what is right in front of us in this moment. Sometimes those steps are not filled with marshmallows and puppies. Sometimes the most loving thing to do can feel cruel and harsh in the moment. Over the years I've had to distance myself from a lot of people. Some of them were dear friends, some of them lovers, some of them family members. The pulling away was not fun and I really did not enjoy the process one bit but, at some point you have to put your wellness first. As I've said many times you are the foundation block of your entire life. Everything you build you build from the inside out. So to not take care of who you are means that everything you build is on shoddy ground. So many people I have come across over the years have just never had the languageing skill of self respect. We so often think that it's about how other people behave around you but that's not really what respect is at it's core. It's about how you conduct yourself in any situation. Manners, compassion, social graces are all part of self respect. It is how you chose to honour who you are.

 

 

Drawing a boundary within your life first begins inwardly. You first have to decide that you are worth protecting. You are worth respecting. You are worthy of being loved and you are worth the ability to love. You deserve a life that looks like you. You deserve a life that feels honest. That's not to say that it will always be fun. Everyone's journey is littered with pain but that pain doesn't need to be a monument. Bit by bit, piece by piece you can create life for yourself that is an honest and accurate expression of your most authentic self. For me that has included simple things like making sure I am self employed, making sure I am creatively and spiritually active and also making sure that I am self aware enough to ask for the things I feel like I need and want. I definitely learned the “put up and shut up” habit that seems pervasive in our culture. These days I express myself much more but I'd be lying if I said I did it all the time. There is still sometimes a small window where I wrestle asking for what I feel like I need but I get out of that space a lot quicker than I used to.

 

 

My point is a journey towards expressing and living a love centred life doesn't always feel like sunshine. But it can feel honest. We all have had those moments where we have had to let someone go out of our lives and live through that horrible space but the truth of that doesn't change. The truth that it needs to be done doesn't alter. So with this in mind, where in your life are you not being true to yourself? Where in your life are you lying to yourself? Where in your life are you not showing up? Playing small is chronic socially so why not show up where you are?! I completely believe in the magic and miracle of the human spirit. I have seen so many examples first hand of people transcending horrific situations and becoming their most authentic selves. It is possible for every person out there is you are willing to live by your own truth and not betray yourself any more. Be willing to live without lies. Once you get to the foundation of who you are you really can build something beautiful.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Defining a dream.

 

You never stop growing. It really is true. Wanting more is not greedy, it's the nature of the human spirit. We are all artists with life as our canvas. Even sat here in a new home that I am starting to fall in love with I still want more. Dont worry Stu is you are reading this, I don't want to move again, but there will always be things that call me to grow. Right now I am working more consciously on the things I want to manifest in my life next. I am going through everything with a fine tooth comb. What lifestyle do I want? What feeling do I want to live more dominantly? What financial improvements do I want to make? I am going from the ground up to define within myself exactly what it is I want to call to me. Once I am clear on everything that's when I am going to give it over to the Universe and see what she says. That's the part of most manifestational practices that we over look. We forget to check in to see if what we are asking for really is a part of our authentic selves. I've learned over the years to just keep an ear to the ground when asking for something to make sure that it's meant for me.

 

 

Also, make your manifestations exciting! What dream has been lurking in the back of your mind that you would like to give a go? For me it's less about mining my mind for a desire and more about filtering out the billion things I'd like to try. There are so many creative disciplines that I would like to try and so many hobbies that I would like to give a go, plus the many places in the world I would like to see. This last year I had so many things that I wanted to do and none of them happened. Like, absolutely not even one of them! So I think I am going to revisit a lot of the things I set in motion last year and see of they still hold up. If they do, then I already have my list to move forward with! My rule of intent now though is whether the dreams, goals or ideas I have still hold any excitement for me. A mild curiosity is not enough for me to reorient my life right now. I am looking for complete intuitive ingestion into a space. That feeling I had to move house this last year was so powerful and I want to be in that space more.

 

 

Intuitive movement is something I intend to work on a lot more. I noticed this year that there were so many times when I didn't know what to do that I would actually ask my intuition to take over my body and without any deliberate thought I would find myself doing the exact right thing at the exact right time. I would call people that I needed to speak to. Change things that needed to be changed. I'm not sure if that's a good way to live every day of my life but it's something I am chewing on right now. Have you ever tried that? If you are stuck in a situation and don't quite know what to do and there is a time limit to it then ask your intuition to take over and see what you end up doing! It's a fascinating experience and one I want to unravel further! With that in mind I think I'll try and incorporate it into the creation of my manifestation list for 2018! What's going on yours?

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Are you listening?

 

 Every morning, after yoga and meditation I begin with an intuitive exercize. It literally is just me sitting there with a pen and a cup of coffee doodling whilst asking my intuition if it has any insights for me. Then if anything pops into my mind I write it down. If it pops into my mind over and over again over the course of a week that's when I know my instinct is trying to get my attention. Recently most of my insights have been centred around my body. The words “Take care of your temple” kept running around in the back on my mind. I wasn't entirely sure what it meant at first until I caught sight of my belly in a mirror and nearly fell to the ground in horror! I've never had a gut and to find myself in possession of one was not a good moment for me. So since then it's back to the cardio, a complete cull on the crap I eat during the day, ( note to self : NEVER leave a packet of biscuits next to the kettle ) and looking at new ways to engage my body in activity. I have had intuitive hits to try swimming, relax mentally and yesterday the message was to vary my diet more. Intuition isn't always a life shifting thing. It can be as you all know, after all I only moved house because my gut pulled me in that direction. Most of the time though intuitive hits are subtle which is why I advocate you leaving room in your day to listen.

 

 

A quiet cuppa and a notepad is often enough of a gap in your thoughts to listen to that little voice in the back of your head. I often take a piece of pen and paper with me everywhere but I also find on dog walks that little hunches will often come to the surface. I love to watch the trees and the skies and the sea and find that it's often when my mind wanders that it finds itself. When I relax more I am able to hear my own truth but you don't have to be in deep meditation to get there. Your intuition is always working for you. It is always planning the shortest route between you and the things that you are manifesting. The more you listen, the more you follow, the more you will allow into your life. Sometimes your intuition really works hard to get you in the space of where you need to be so that you can listen to it and that's often when little “accidents” happen or when the Universe throws you a cruve ball. It's those moments when something bizarre lands on your lap and you catch yourself saying, “I wonder what that means?”. It doesn't have to be something bad. Sometimes a white feather is a message from the angels for you to sit down and get quiet. When you don't know what's really going on maybe it's because you're ignoring what your inner voice is telling you and this is how the Universe has had to get your attention?

 

 

Right now, right in this moment your intuition has a message for you and maybe reading this blog is the conduit through which it is speaking to you. If you are reading this then as soon as you are done take 5 minutes and doodle. Ask your intuition if it has any information for you. Listen to whatever voice shows up in your head, whatever memory surfaces, whatever idea crops up. Or if nothing does, repeat the process throughout the day, make a concerted effort to get our of your own way and listen. The more space you create, the more room you have to change your inner dialogue. Make room to listen. You won't always get it right, I work as a psychic and medium and even I fall over my own thoughts on my way to intuitive insight. But I still show up the next day and the day after that. Keep going. Make listening part of your daily routine and see where it takes you.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Building something new.

 

Start small. What is the one thing you could do today to improve the quality of the life that you are living? That's a question I ask myself regularly. When we start to look at the narrative of self development the whole industry explodes all over you. It's yoga, meditation, green tea, positive thinking, manifestation, mood boards, trips to Bali, writing your memoirs, morning pages and that's just stuff to consider before 10 am. It's a lot, and whilst it's O.K to pick and borrow and choose what you might want to try we need to consider the root of why we are doing these things in the first place. It's about creating right? It's about looking through the chaos of an every day life and seeing the love at the centre of it. It's about returning to your emotional and spiritual home. It's so easy to get caught up and just create a new “spiritually flavoured” type of chaos. If you've been in this community for a while we've all met people who do this. Running around with crystals attached to every appendage and going to every class under the sun but never actually creating peace. That's the root of my practice, to find the easiest route to peace.

 

 

I have built up quite a system over the years and from the outside looking in it looks like a lot. To be honest it shifts and changes but the root of it all remains steady. I find something that helps me achieve quiet, something that helps me feel grateful and something that helps me to express love. As long as those three pieces of the puzzle are present I feel a lot more grounded. With the house move recently it's been more of a challenge to get back into the routine I had and that's given me the opportunity to look at what in the routine is and isn't working. I have let the morning poetry writing slide but I am starting that again next week properly. I also havent done a lot of meditation this last week and I can feel it's absence. The one non negotiable of my morning is time with Stuart. I will forgo all my practices to make sure I spend time with him before he goes to work. Expression of love is mandatory for my well being so creating that space is part of the foundation block of my day.

 

 

So spend some time today not just thinking about what you can do to improve your day but actually try playing with some ideas. Why not sit there are doodle on your lunch break or do some colouring in as a meditation practice? Why not turn off your phone for 15 minutes and have a cup of tea in complete silence? These are all small little things that don't take up a lot of time and can really have an impact on your day to day experience. Also something small you can do to improve your life can be something as simple as aiming to be as gentle on yourself as you can be today. Aim to not beat yourself up as much. Aim to give yourself an unapologetic nap or a gift, or a little adventure somewhere new. A painting is nothing more than a collection of a thousand brush strokes but when they all add up you have a thing of beauty. Make a brush stroke today and create the masterpiece that is the life that's living you.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Are you ready for your own reflection?

 

It' so easy to point the finger. To make what is happening in your life someone else's fault. The work we do in the spiritual community is not for everyone and if you try to promote it to someone who isn't ready or willing then it can often end in disaster. I actually don't think it's healthy to promote this way of life at all, I firmly believe that you have to come to it on your own and in your own time. I have learned this the hard way. Like I've said before I can be belligerently naïve. I often think that if it weren't for an unrelenting connection to my instinct that I would have gotten myself in a lot more trouble. Being a psychic I have access to a truth, sometimes my truth, sometimes a client's personal truth, sometimes a glimpse of what's coming. It literally is an extra sense and it is different from being a medium. That is more about listening to spirits. Now in my early days of figuring this out I would often share information without consent, without respecting the boundaries of the people around me. I would literally just blurt out what I picked up on in the moment. As you can imagine that didn't always go down too well. One of the things I noticed that always stuck with me and was repeated in many other areas of my life was that so many people demonized who I was so that they didn't have to deal with what I said.

 

 

Most of you will know what I mean by this. I think in some way shape or form we have all been projected into something we are not by someone else. It took a few rounds of me sitting there trying to figure out why I was being attacked when all I really thought I was doing was helping to figure out that relationship to truth is incremental. Some people just aren't ready for it and sometimes you aren't either. How often have you over looked a deep flaw in a relationship because you were afraid that if you pulled on that thread the whole thing would unravel? How often have you turned up at a job when you knew in your core that you weren't supposed to be there? How often have you ignored that niggle in the back of your brain that has told you to stop and take care your body? We have all spent time in these gray areas and the less you dwell there the more you change. The more you ready yourself for truth, the more you will recognise it and be willing to act upon it. On a planet of 7 billion there are bound to be a few that rub you up the wrong way so appropriate boundaries are vital for your survival but you don't need to demonize someone to put them there in the first place.

 

 

Before you point a finger at someone for how they have behaved maybe check first to see what truth within you they are reflecting. I know that when someone hurts me, really gets under my skin, it's because there is something in me that they are showing me. Sometimes they are showing me a lack of good boundaries, sometimes it's a bit more deep and personal. The point is I try to work from the inside out before reacting. I don't always succeed but we're all human at the end of the day. I do try to figure out what in me attracted them in the first place and what energy in me they are showing up with. After all, the laws of karma, attraction, cause and effect are always in play. Only then do I reinforce my own internal boundaries, clear up and wounds that need attention and if needed have a conversation with any other parties about what will be appropriate moving forward. Once you've changed your energy the universe will rise to meet it. Work on your first. You deserve that grace.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Clearing what is no longer needed.

 

After a whole weekend of lifting boxes, dropping boxes, putting boxes in the wrong rooms and finding more rando crap than any human being should ever accumulate, I am FINALLY in my new home! I normally cry on moving days but whether it was the exhaustion, the lack of coffee in my system or just that I was so ready to go I was actually O.K all day. I was the last person in the house and I said a little goodbye, I went into my empty readings room and had a quiet word with the spirits to let them know that I wasn't going to be there any more. I know that they know that of course, it was more a symbolic act to clear my energy out of the space. I mopped and hoovered ( and of course my hoover broke on the day so thank the GODS for my friend claire who ran down with hers for me ). Then as Stuart filled the last car load, I closed the door and walked Oscar from the old house to the new one. Yes, I've not gone far. My mind was really quiet as I left the hill, after almost 20 years I was ready for that chapter of my life to be over. Already I feel lighter, more creative, less weighted. Today is the first day I am in this house on my own and I have to craft out of it what I need it to be. My readings room is all set up and I plan a good meditation in there later to get a whif of the energy balance but first things first, cleansing the space!

 

 

I recommend a good house cleanse at least once a month. I tend to do it weekly because my house get's a lot of footfall but once a month is plenty and if you do it on a full moon then you can normally stretch the energy shift out a little longer. My personal preference is to burn incense. I've just always loved it to the point of, for a while, I considered starting making my own and having a little business around it. My favourite is Nag Champa but I burn a sandalwood when I do a cleanse and sometimes I add a little lavender to the mix if I want to increase the love vibrations. I start at the front door and then chant working clockwise through the house, covering every window and door in cleansing symbols ( pentagram, christian cross or reiki symbol will do ). I work my way from the front door to the back door and then back to the front again. For about 3 days after the cleanse the house feels like it's had a deep clean! Anything and everything clients have brought with them has gone and I can realx into an energy echo-less environment.

 

 

Like most of you I believe that houses are their own histories, especially old houses like the one I moved into. I can definitely feel old energies here but to be honest the overall feeling is love. The lady who lived here before clearly loved and doted on her children because that love is all through the house. It felt like a warm hug when I walked in and now that I am making this house my own I want to keep that love going. I have also felt echos of an old lady at the back of the house and a gentleman in the room I am about to do readings in. Nothing feels untoward though and I think that what I'm picking up on is just an energy imprint rather than an actualy spirit but I'll feel more and know more when I relax more and open up fully. Cleansing brings a lot of this stuff to the surface, or more acurately, it helps you to see what's really there rather than just keeping things spiritually muddy. When you finish a cleanse, sit for a moment and visualise yourself walking around your house. Any room that you can't see clearly in your minds eye is the room that needs the most clearing. Give it a go, if anything weird comes up then drop me a line or maybe leave a message below and I'll see if I can help!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Free yourself from the negative ex...

 

Your energy is not benign. It is a moving, thinking, intuitive extension of your soul. It is an expression of who you are, who you were and the potential of everything you can be. Expressions of this energy are found more often than not in your aura which is a light that extends around the body containing wonderful pieces of information. I see it as a sort of echo of your soul. Those of you that come to my readings know that I like to read the aura and the more I delve into it the more it unfolds like a map around you. I used to just see colours, one or two that usually depicted someone's mood. Over the years I've learned to see whole energy maps of someone's life and even to this day it is evolving and growing into something richer. The only troubling part of the energy I encounter is just how often I see people hang onto energy from past relationships. Sometimes, and even more worryingly, I've seen a clients energy more focused on the pain of a past hurt than they are on the love of what is right in front of them. It's scary when we allow the wounds of our past to prevent us from the joy of our now so, I wanted to give a few tips on how to shake any fragments that might be hindering you moving forward loose.

 

 

If you find yourself often day dreaming about an ex or if you have noticed that you are tarring the people around you with the same brush then that's a clue you might need to do some inner work. If your ex fundamentally shifted your ability to trust anyone then that might be something you are going to want to undo. I'm all for growing from these experiences and I completely understand that some break ups hold severe trauma in the psyche and energy systems but the truth is until you learn to resolve that energy it sits right there with you. You take it into every other relationship you go into and you also share it around every other aspect of your life. The good news is you also have the power to free yourself of all of those entanglements. You can viscerally cut loose any negative attachment to an old lover. All you need to do is forgive them for everything. Yep, I said it. Forgive them. Can you look back at an old hurt and feel more grateful for the lessons you've learned and the person you've become as a result than the pain of the experience? Can you feel love in your heart for the lessons you've brought to yourself through the soul of that person? The more you lean in that direction, the more love that floods your energy and the quicker you surrender them and the energy of their that you hold onto back to the Universe.

 

 

There are many symbolic meditations when it comes to energy surrendering. Cord cutting is a popular one and so is a boyfriend/girlfriend bonfire ( burning their stuff ). Don't get me wrong I think ritual is fun and important when it comes to personal transformation but no energy will shift until you learn to inject love, compassion and forgiveness into the root of the wound and set it free. If you don't part of you will always be a victim to the circumstances of the pain rather than a self taught soul artist. You get to decide what you paint your life with so don't splay it with shades of pain. Take the most beautiful parts of your experience, your love, your light, your capacity for transformation and use that to life your energy to a new level. The quicker you show gratitude towards the things that hurt you the most, the quicker you can free yourself of the weight they carry over you. Good luck!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Where did that come from?

 

 In less than 2 weeks I leave this house and sitting here surrounded by boxes and lists I am at the point where I am counting the days! So, of course, any resistance to the move, any self doubt within my own energy has had a only small window of opportunity to manifest... and it has. Like I've said in previous blogs even though I have wholeheartedly followed my gut on this one, probably with more faith than most of my life decisions ( mainly because it impacts Stuart soo ) I have also never questioned an intuition as much as I have this one. It's been such a weird back and forth. If the intuition wasn't as clear as it was and the signs to move as blatant as they have been I probably would have called it off a while ago. But of course, when you allow a certain amount of energy within your own body it's going to create a ripple effect in your environment. This week the guy who is moving us has hurt his back so can't commit to the move, we've found out that we don't actually own the deeds to the front steps of our house ( I know, am I supposed to pole vault into my garden? ) and there's whispers of delay with the buyer. All of this came to light over the weekend and if I were any less of a man I would have fallen to the ground and cried fowl at the Universe for not making this a “smoothe transition” but all I could do was laugh at myself and say, “Well done Ry!”.

 

 

I know things will level out. I know this wont really hinder anything. I know that by friday of this week it will all be plain as day and O.K in front of me. The only reason I'm talking about it is because it's interesting to think about the lens through which we look at what we are creating. If my energy were more dominantly rooted in self doubt I might have looked upon those bumps in the road and seen tham as signs. I might have allowed them to cost me a good mood. At worst I would have let them stop me moving forward at all but if anything they made me smile. I know that what I am creating for myself is in my best interests and each time I step fully into that energy I know that I am making all the right choices. Connecting and reconnecting with that inner truth over and over also helps me to see the energy content of what shows up in my life. You really can see which part of your energy created which part of your life. Through a discerning eye it's hard not to see. Is your job a reflection of your heart or is it a reflection of a learned sense of duty? Is the chaos you're facing a reflection of what you have allowed within yourself or is your life emptying? Different parts of you are creating all the time. The world around you is ultimitely an echo of the spirit within you.

 

 

I know that last sentence might be a little intense for a Tuesday morning but it doesn't make it any less true. It also doesn't make what you experience any less painful or joyful or make you any less responsible for what turns up in front of you. Your life is of your own making. If you remain in a space of fear it's so easy to start acting like a victim to the world around you. Trust me, that never ends well! If you create love, stayin the space of love and try to see the world through the lens of love then instead of crying foul when things don't work out you just end up being pro active. Within the space of 24 hours near enough all the little bumps that turned up have been taken care of and we are back on course. I knew exactly what had created what in my experience and therefore knew how to react to it. Take a little look at your life and think about which parts of you are playing out where. Once you've identified it's much easier to get a handle on them and course correct! Good Luck.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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How about you?

 

I plan my blogs out on a Sunday night. I sit with tarot cards and connect with the Universe to try and allow through myself what would be the most impactful things to write that would help my clients in the moment they need it realign with the love in their own hearts. Too often I forget that I am included in that mix as well. It happens a lot when something will be on my mind, or there's a problem happening in my life and at the very moment I need to deal with it I also need to write a blog on it. Writing is a form of meditation for me. It forces me to solidify what I think about a subject. It's then that I can use that as a platform to either allow my opinion to grow or sometimes to let it go completely. I am not one of those people that think it's O.K to believe the same things for most of your life. I think if what you think hasn't shifted then you haven't really let go to life often enough. Lately I seem to be writing about two main subjects, how much room you make to show love to who you are and also how much room you make to listen to your intuition. These are themes that I am working on within myself and I have needed, over this last year especially to root myself in a system of self care.

 

 

As the year has gone on I have become renewed in my fascination with the dynamic between my intuition and my willingness to hear it. I've actually reinstigated intuitive exercizes into my morning routine just so that I am doing all I can to listen should it have anything to bring to me. I have reconnected with a silence based meditation practice and have reintroduced myself to yoga also. All of these things seem to have a wonderful “emptying out” process for my mind and I am able to hear what I am REALLY thinking underneath the general clutter of every day mental noise. As you all know my intuition recently told me to move house, the feeling was strong and in my gut and I am wise enough to know that that is enough of a reason to act on it. Within three weeks my house was sold and in less than two weeks Stu and I move into our new place. That intuitive hit was the strongest I had elt for a while and it sparked something in me. I'm not sure whether it hit so hard because I wasn't listening regularly or because the message had an urgency to it but what I do know is that I felt electrified by that connection and I want more. That clarity, that unashamed “knowing” is something I am bringing into my own energy more and more.

 

 

I've said before that I can see clients lives, choices, energies and sometimes projections of their futures with a clarity that I have envied for my own. I do get messages for myself but my own internal bias often gets in the way and I can't see for myself with the same type of assuredness. Intuitive messages seem to over ride a lot of that and put me in the space the spirits often put my clients in. Since that last big intuitive hit I have been receiving more. I know that some changes are coming for me and I am listening to what I am being told. In the same way that I knew it was time to move I know that more change is on the way for me. I know that my business is shifting energies, I am feeling guided to get more in tune with my physical body and my relationship to my creativity is about to go through an evolution. Some of the messages I am getting for myself are gentle whispers, others are kicks to the shin, either way, making room to listen has put me firmly back into a space where I want to be and I didn't realise I had drifted so far from. I can't remember who said it but the quote goes, “Your head shouts, your heart whispers.”. So silence, in any shape or form has become something I am hungry for right now. I will follow where I am called and right now there is a call to stillness. How about you?

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Set your own standard.

 

I pulled the blankets over my head and tried everything I could to will myself back to sleep. That's all I wanted to do. I ate just enough to keep me going and a good day was not having a panic attack. I had no idea at the time that I was dealing with depression. It really is everything they say. A life in slow motion. Diseased thinking, diseased behaviours and as a result I had diseased boundaries that welcomed all kinds of numpty's into my life. I presented myself as a doormatt, a punch bag, a surrogate boyfriend/father figure, pretty much whatever you wanted from me I would try my best to provide all the while never asking for anything in return. Self care, self respect and a sense of value were not even words that I knew at that time and when I look back on it now I just want to reach back in time and grab that young man to give him a hug. My transformation into where I am today was not something that happened over night. Step by step, piece by piece I put myself back together. I realised that my depression was reactive, not clinical, meaning that it can resolve itself and through therapy and self reflection I managed to get myself to a place where I am today. I wake now most days not just happy but with positive expectation.

 

 

My journey to a right mind began with acknowledging and learning about value. What do I value? Who do I value? How am I going to safe guard what I hold true? One of the first things I learned on my road to self recovery was that I get to set the standards and rules for my own life. The deeper I delved the more I could see that what I thought was loving, caring for others, was actually an act of self betrayal because it came at the cost of my own dignity. I had to learn to start taking care of myself and really acknowledging what I felt about ever person I surrounded myself with. I decided to set a standard in my life based around a “love or above” principle. You had to bring a full heart to my space. That's not to say that people aren't allowed to be wounded or in a bad mood around me, we all have those moments but, the second you start to lash out, especially at me, you're out. The second you reclaim your energy and set a standard based around love in your life expect everything to implode. Yes, implode. People you considered your best friends will turn their backs and walk away from you, lovers will reveal their true selves, parents go crazy and jobs fall to pieces. That is a standard, normal consequence when you start to put you first. If you are there right now, it's O.K. After the initial shock and a little time alone something wonderful starts to happen.

 

 

You see quickly who really wants you to succeed and who has been “feeding” off your energy. You see who genuinely loves you and who is addicted to the drama of your situation. You begin to recognise more readily the energy of those who surround your life. You will also meet new people who will respond to the new level of good energy that you are putting out there. Some will come out of the wood work, some may have been sat next to you for years and suddenly you see them. It may take a while but you can build a life and family based on the principles of love. It took me a while but I got there eventually! You will have to learn to love some people at arms length and you will have to dowse your entire life in forgiveness. The quicker you forgive everyone for everything the quicker you are free of the energy entanglement. I made a few mistakes when creating this life and to be honest I'm probably not done making them, who is? The thing is now I turn my mistakes into lessons and I grow from them. I set the standard for how I want to feel and what kinds of people are welcome in my life. This journey taught me that I have not only the right but the duty to do that to create love on the planet and the same is true for you. You deserve love.

 

 

Thank you for listening,

 

 

big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Changing your trajectory.

 

 The working day had ended and a familiar stabbing pain pulsed through my head. Instinctively I drew the curtains of my bedroom and popped a few pills to try and stave off the oncoming waves of pain. Oscar always seems to know when they hit and doesn't push too much for any walks. I was just sick of this. Weeks and weeks of them. Whilst I could cope with the pain it's the few days of complete exhaustion afterwards that always seemed to make me feel emotionally worse. Still, I would not give in. There were times when I wanted to close down my business and times when I was so tired I didn't know my arse from my elbow and I could feel it. A lingering black on the edges of my day to day life. Not a depression as such, more an invitation to renounce any and all responsibility for my life. I know it sounds weird when I talk about it like this but that really is what it feels like. I got stuck in a pattern of being tired so much that I started whining intentionally and emotionally just checking out, even when I had the internal resources to show up. Victim hood is a part of all of us and if you deny then you're most likely knee deep in it as we speak. There are times when we all need a good moan but if that's how you start your day then you're in trouble. Thankfully I have this weird little sign between me and the Universe when I get off track in that manner. Whenever I allow myself to sink into victim hood, even if it has a legitimate cause I always start to manifest bullies into my life.

 

 

It's weird. I'll get a mean client ring me up or a horrible person will cross my path. It's like the Universe joins in. If I'm going to disrespect my own energy then that's what shows up at my door, sometimes literally. It's the basis of the Universe, like attracts like, if I am going to betray my energy by acting as if I am at the mercy of all the ravages of the world then of course that's what shows up. Victim hood is the energetic infantilisation of your spirit. You are literally rejecting the idea that your life if your own. I firmly believe that there is always something you can do in any situation. I am also an advocate of complete, energetic, personal responsibility. Now unfortunatley we live in a culture right now where sadly the opposite tends to be exhaulted. In our attempt to help people who are legitimately in need of help we so often trip up on our own compassion and fall head first into our own entitlement. We sweep the rug out from under those that need help by fostering a stunted mindset. It's just another way that the ego creates a heirarchy. I try my best at every turn to see every human being for the powerful, empowered manifestational boss that they are. You may not be able to do everything you need or want to do right this very minute but you can start small. I really do think that no matter where you are, no matter how dark things seem, that there is always something you can do to improve the situation.

 

 

Your life is on your shoulders. No one is coming to save you. It is up to you to ask for help. It is up to you to effectively communicate your needs. It is up to you to seek and find wonder in the world around you. Fatigue, depression, heartache, these are just a few of the experiences I've had that I've had to learn to find the light inside of. It's not been easy and I know I can't really delve into it in a three paragraph blog but I can let you know that my life didn't change until I decided it had to. Some days the only thing I could do to improve my life was make a list of things I wanted to do. Some days it was have a shower and eat something. Step by step, decision by decision I started to get a handle on my energy and soon enough I found my way. Sometimes I have to find my way again, but it always starts and ends with me. What am I going to do? Ask and it is given. Karma. Dharma. Law of attraction. However your phraze it there is something in the Universe that responds to the energy you allow within your own body. So with that in mind, what are you allowing? What decision do you need to make? Where do you want to be? Decide now, sometimes that's enough.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Intuitive Vs Emotional feelings.

 

The moving date finally happened! So, in just under 2 weeks I shall be gone from this house and I shall be starting a slightly new chapter! Sitting here this morning looking out over the sea and writing I don't feel any regrets leaving this place behind. I have loved it here and I will love passing it on to the next person who hopefully will enjoy these walls as much as I have. Everything I love about living here I will have in the next place because location wise I'm not going that far, the only real wrench is going to be losing the view but the new place is actually closer to the beach so I think I will be spending more time with sand between my toes. Also, I'm technically swapping a view of the bay for a view of brynmill park so it really is splitting hairs! I think because I'm so sensitive to energy movements I always find moving house more impactful than it probably should be but I know that this is the right move. I received the intuition and was told to go and I knew that I had to listen. When you ask for a sign to make doubly, tripply sure you got it right and then keep dreaming that all of mount pleasant is on fire then that's just an extra bit of a nudge. I'm eager to see what the new place brings in terms of energy though!

 

 

It's weird watching my resistance flare up though. I really am flitting between moments of excitement and fear. This happens whenever we create something that is good for us. I think I told you the story before that on the morning I was due to go on a date with Stuart I woke up fuming for no reason. Really, overtly angry to the point of where I almost cancelled the date and now here we are nearly 8 years later with a dog about to buy our second house together! It's important to acknowledge the difference between your emotional feelings and your intuitive ones. Emotionally I do feel scared to make changes that have such a big financial impact, I was scared at the beginning of the year to invest money in getting new teeth! I was scared when I went to pick up Oscar for the first time! My emotions can often be rooted in overwhelm and being a typical bloke who doesn't like too much change BUT my intuitive feelings are often the complete opposite. Right now my intuition is happy, my intuition knows all of the wonderful things that are about to unfold in my life and also knows that this is just the first step in a long list of steps that will keep me connected to the feeling of deep spiritual joy.

 

 

If I had listened to my emotions I wouldn't have done any of the things that I enjoy doing now. I wouldn't be involved with all the wonderful people that I am now. I wouldn't get to take mini breaks from writing my blog to give oscar a cuddle. Your emotions are wonderful indicators about what is going on within your heart but I don't let my heart rule my life which I know sounds weird coming from me. I let my gut take charge always or at least I aim to. I've dealt with too many disasterous consequences when I don't listen to it so even if it contradicts what I'm feeling I listen now and move on that inner voice. The spirits were right when then told me this whole house move would be an “exercise in trust” and I am grateful that I have followed it and I think the further along this journey I go the more grateful I will become! So, can you tell the difference between your emotional feelings and your intuitive ones? Meditation is a good way to draw a line between the two. Your intuition might go directly against what your feeling right now, it is the voice of absolute reason even if it doesn't make sense at the time!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Making visualization work!

 

Visualisation is a helpful tool in co creating your life. It can help you to line up with your own energy and explore how you are feeling about the things in your life you are currently creating. You can call it visualising, imagining or day dreaming, either way what you choose to regurgitate within your own mind will call it's equivalent to you. I used to think that visualising in and of itself was enough to create. I thought that if I thought about something enough it would imprint on my experience but, I've learned that's not the whole story. In everything we create there is an inbuilt guidance that helps us to navigate the space between what we are creating and where we are. I call that space intuition. Visualising without access to your guidance can quickly lead to a toxic environment. We've all seen people hanging onto a dream, a relationship, a job long after it's died it's own death. I've been in most of those places myself and sometimes, in spaces like that, no amount of visualizing is going to help you. I've found it's more beneficial to think about visualizing as a way to create good energy. It doesn't really matter what you are focused on within that state so long as it's lifting your heart and making you smile. This is the energy that leads to the equation of what comes back to you. That's why if you do nothing but regurgitate your old relationships in your head you are more likely to meet someone exactly like them.

 

 

Now I personally love to day dream. When I get back to my cardio this week the day dreaming whilst running is my favourite part of the process. I like to think about creative projects, ideas for paintings, characters for my books, pretty much everything that makes me feel better. Now that my foot is so close to being healed and I can start cardio again I am really looking forward to it. I prefer visualization and daydreaming as a form of active meditation. If I scrap book, make mood boards, exercize, these things tend to help me access the feeling place of where I want to be more easily because I am already in an active space within my own body. Give it a go. Wherever you exercize or create in your life put a mood board there, put your list of things you are creating there as a way to remind yourself to dwell in a better feeling place. It's so easy to slip into a habit of thinking about past hurts and pain and I am fully aware that sometimes it's essential to do so. I am not demonising thinking about your past. I am just saying to use your inner guidance to know whether you are back there to resolve and fix something or whether you are just there out of habit.

 

 

Guidance is essential when you are creating a better life for yourself and on some level we are all doing that all of the time. We are all working towards something that feels better for us. The more you root yourself in your own sense of guidance the easier you will be able to recognise what energy within you is creating what is around you. I see so many people create and recreate the same relationships, the same jobs over and over again causing themselves huge distress mainly because they haven't allowed their energy to move beyond thinking about or reacting to an initial experience. I thought about my first heart break so much when I was younger than I met him in several incarnations throughout my twenties. Once I moved my thought processes on I allowed the full expansion of who I had become as a result of learning those lessons and then I started to meet up with people who were more on my level which eventually lead to me meeting my Stu! I changed a thought habit, which expanded a better feeling place, which lifted my energy and I called in everything that was on that level. It sounds so simple when you put it like that and it can be but that doesn't take away from the day to day process of getting there. Give a try for 30 days. When you catch yourself dwelling, move your thoughts so something that lifts you and watch what changes!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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I'm looking forward to...

 

You can't shake a stick in the self help genre without stumbling over the idea of affirmations, which, if you do happen to be new to all of this, is the idea of repeating a positive statement over and over again until you believe it to be true. It's the principle that if you don't love who you are then saying it over and over again can help you convince yourself. I know it sounds a bit suss but stay with me. You are the first person to hear any words coming out of your mouth. You hold the vibration of them in your body and you carry them around. Now I personally don't think the words themselves do the damage because I think that language is a benign construct. It's how those words are used and the intention behind them that gives them their context and therefore their power. I have given nearly enough everything a go with it comes to affirmations and for me languaging something more positively does help. I don't see it as a cure though. I don't think repeating something over and over again helps you to make it true but I do think it can be a key to unlock an inner dialogue to get you to a better feeling place.

 

 

For me, just saying the opposite of something will just end up making me more frustrated. When I don't feel worthy, just repeating, “I am worthy!” doesn't help because I know that's not what I'm feeling at that moment and I have a lingering attachment to emotional honesty that I can't quite shift. So, instead, I say things like, “I am looking forward to the moment I feel worthy again.”. It sounds so simple and it's so silly but it really works for me. “I am looking forward to...” and fill in the blank. I am looking forward to feeling better about money. I am looking forward to feeling so in love with my soul mate that I could jump up and down on the spot. I am looking forward to being able to travel where I want, when I want. You get the idea. I find that instead of trying to jump to a space that doesn't feel honest for me that if I take small steps there then I get there faster. “I'm looking forward to,” disassociates me from my present state, acknowledges the energy of where I am going and also leaves room for me to feel excited about it. I see it as an invitation to moving energy in a better direction.

 

 

Using language and relanguaging the world has always been a powerful tool to move me out of a negative space. As soon as I have a handle on where I am I use the energy and context of language to move me to a place of letting go so that I can rise to where I want to be. Another little tip to help you with this is to try and write it down. I have a small notebook I keep with me and if I catch myself actualising a thought, an energy or a feeling that isn't helping me then I find a place to start scribbling away until I feel better again. I am looking forward to. I am open to. I am eager to begin feeling. Find a version of this that works for you but don't pretend that it's working if it isn't. Really find a way to language the world that has a resonance with how you are actually feeling. This isn't about faking a good feeling or thought in the hope that one day it will just show up. This a gentle way to ease yourself into a better feeling place by acknowledging that there is a next step to take in order to get out of it. Sometimes just knowing that there is a way out is enough to help you move in that direction. You can do this!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Does positive thinking really work?

 

“Think positive” is a word that's thrown around in my profession a lot. Like, really, a lot. But let's be honest, when your life is falling apart in your hands slapping a smile over it, faking it till you make it or trying to muster up some good thoughts isn't always the easiest way to deal with the situation. Also positive is a relative term. We all just want to grow and experience more good feelings than bad. For the last 3 days I've had a horrible chest infection. This whole thing was a bit of a shock because I never get sick. I get the occasional migraine but in the last 10 years I don't think I've had a cold or a flu. Now some of my older clients ( as in length of time coming to see me ! ) will remember that I had a lung operation in my late teens, to stop my lungs from repeatedly collapsing, so, I always have a mindful awareness of anything chesty that circulates around my body. Now during the last three days I turned into a snot nosed, sweaty, grotty mess and if someone had told me “think positive” I doubt that it would have had any effect on where I was or on how I was feeling. But that doesn't mean that I didn't reach for the better feeling place. Sometimes that meant wrapping myself up in a blanket, sometimes that meant a short walk to get some air in my lungs, sometimes it meant hot drinks and having a good moan at Stuart ( that poor boy ).

 

 

I think that when we are free from learned habits that we naturally gravitate towards what is best for us or at the very least what feels better for us in the moment. If we stopped trying to think positive and started to think intuitively, which is to follow the wisdom of the body, then I think that we would start to feel better more regularly. I think that once we start to move in the direction of what is better for us both in mind and body then creating a positive energy within us is inevitable. Now I do think that we are responsible for what we think and that it's O.K to recognise that you are thinking negatively but, it's also O.K to recognise that you are finding it difficult to think in a better way at the moment too. That's really O.K. Take the pressure off! You don't have to have it all done straight away. Just pick a better feeling place. Sometimes that feeling place is within you, sometimes it's not. Instead of holding yourself hostage to the mantra of thinking positively, why not try asking yourself the question, “What can I do to make myself feel better in this instant?”.

 

 

Creating a better feeling life, a more authentic life is not just about finding the right mindset or the right spiritual practice. It's about a million little steps and choices that you make along the way. Find what works for you, create a better feeling place within yourself however you can. Don't try to rush to the finish line because there isn't one. Right now you have a whole day ahead of you to do what you want with. You have life coursing through you and expressing itself all over the place. If you stop trying to think positively and start to think more authentically and make small choices daily towards doing what feels good you'll probably wake up one day and find yourself thinking “positively” anyway! Just go moment by moment. Reach for the best feeling available to you right now and then repeat that as often as you can. Go for a coffee with a friend, give your dog a big smooch, buy yourself or a friend an unexpected gift, just take a small step and you'll get where you need to be in no time!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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What's in your house?

 

I'm just going to say it, Christmas is coming. I know, I know, I know it's November but let's be real. If you have kids or are just a big kid yourself then you will be prepared in some way. Personally this is the only year in a long time where I don't quite know what to plan or what to do because we are still waiting on a date to move house. I hope I'm in before the tree goes up. I remember saying to Stuart last year that I wasn't sure whether we would be here this Christmas and I think I might be cutting it fine. This weekend we are doing more packing and getting ready. I'm at the point now where I just want to go. I am eager to settle in to my new art space, my new readings space and to get to know the trees that are on my front doorstep ( brynmill park ). I have already planned things to decorate the house with like a penny wall ( google that it looks lovely ) and a pallet wall ( also awesome ). I want to hit a wall through to increase the size of the bathroom and do an attic conversion, also there's a garage that has a shower and kitchen built into it so I'm not sure whether to hit it down and make a big garden space or to make it into something... either way as you can tell I'm good to go and eager to put my print on the home.

 

 

Because I work from home the space has always been important to me. Actually I don't just think it's because of that. For as far as I can remember having a place to call mine has been a huge currency for me. It's a sanctuary, a place where I can wander the walls and talk to myself ( we all do it! ). Also I like to keep the energy as mild as I can in my home. I didn't have much of a chance to do a big snoop on the day I viewed the new place but I definitely felt a spirit when I was there. I think he might be to do with the current occupiers but I'll know for sure when I move in. I felt a strong angelic precence when I moved into this house and when I first felt it I just thought it was quaint or just something lovely that happened. I've learned since then that it's more of a protective energy for myself because of the energy pool of the area. Don't get me wrong I love mount pleasant, I wouldn't have spent 20 years here if I didn't but my capacity to withstand the energetic shifts that go on up here has lessened the older I've gotten. The new place has a different energy pattern and I can't wait to figure out what it is. The only reason we bought it is because when we went in both Stuart and I had the gut feeling so I'm going to continue to follow that.

 

 

If there is a “resident spirit” there then it won't really bother me. There was one in my flat on Montpelier. It was a gentleman who used to hang around in the hallway. Some of you might remember that I put a tree filled with fairy lights and origami birds there, it wasn't just to make it look pretty, it was also to distract you from the tingly feeling on the back of the neck that he loved to give a few of my clients. He wasn't a bad guy at all and he didn't mind me doing my readings in the kitchen, he was just a bit mischevious. He didn't like my ex though and used to frighten him a fair bit, actually to the point where I had to have a word to ask him to stop! There wasn't a bad vibe in this house though, it just felt like the right balance. I'll share all the details with you when I get there. It's important to know the energy of the place that you rest your head in. It's important to spiritually cleanse the place and important to know where energy pools. I know my house has a lot of spiritual traffic but to be honest, so does most peoples, mine is just a little bit more vocal. Have you looked at the energy content of your home? A good tip to figuring out what's going on there is to imagine yourself walking through each room of your house. The mind absorbs information even if the eyes don't at the time. Let me know how it all goes!

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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Are you betraying yourself?

 

Service is probably one of the most overlooked parts of the cultural spiritual image. When we talk about service in the self help community unfortunately we conjure white washed images of happy smiles and complex yoga poses. We don't talk enough about the courage, the conviction and sometimes the dirty work that needs to happen. It's also one of the areas where, if you don't have a good grounding and awareness of any people pleasing hiccups in your energy then you can easily lose yourself down a service themed rabbit hole. I figured out years ago that I am just as happy for someone else's success as I am my own. Few things make me cry easily but watching someone get something that they really want is one of them. I love seeing the completion of manifestations in someone's life so, as a young man I put two and two together and came out with five. I thought that I would invest in helping other people achieve their dreams. Sounds like a good idea right? The crappy part was that I did it at the expense of my own happiness and when you bring a giving mindset to the table you will always attract those willing to take.

 

 

So the question becomes how do you help those around you without losing your mind? How do you step into a place where you are of real value to the light within yourself and honour the souls you encounter without costing yourself any energy? I only started to ask myself these questions after years of cyclical exhaustion. I know this feels familiar to some of you. It's why we keep running ourselves down all the time. We mistake service for people pleasing. It's so easy to do, I get it but until you start your service with serving the self you will always stumble into it. My first act of service is self care. I make sure that I am energetically ready to stay in a space of light around other human beings. It doesn't always work, that's just life. We can all be irritated into irrational states of mind but if you approach the day in that way then you're already on a losing streak. Make sure that you are as aware of how you feel as you can be before you start your day because that will help you to protect yourself from losing energy.

 

 

The easiest way to tell the difference between service and people pleasing is to acknowledge the moments when you are betraying yourself. Whilse service may ask you to compromise your time, location or assets it will never require you to behave outside your moral compass. People pleasing is when you are running around looking after someone in FULL knowledge that they can do it for themselves but are choosing not to and you know you are enabling them. Service will make you tired but happy tired. People pleasing will exhaust you and then still ask for more. If you find yourself in a cycle of people pleasing then I have good news! The way to stop it is something you already have within your posession, the capacity to say “No.”. Firm, respectful, love centred, no. Remember that you are of greatest service to the Universe when you are filled with love. You are of greatest use when you take care of yourself first. It is then when the Universe in her infinite intelligence can guide you more readily into a space of cocreating miracles because that really is what we are here to do. You were born to make miracles happen and you have everything you need to get there.

 

 

Thank you for reading,

 

 

Big Love,

 

 

Ryan James x

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